Convincing your DP

[Kylix]

So, I know that I want to unschool my kids. It is one of the strongest desires I have for how I want to parent my children. I do not have kids yet. I'm not in a relationship but I'm already contemplating (as I do everything it seems ) how I could convince my future dp that unschooling is a valid choice.

I love and understand unschooling to the core however I have had such a hard time conveying what unschooling REALLY is about to just about anyone else. And it doesn't really bother me. I don't care if Joe Schmo agrees with unschooling.

I can figure out ways to appeal to breastfeeding beyond a year (and even if I couldn't--it's my breasts, my baby...), not circumcising, co-sleeping....but convincing my dp to allow me to unschool the kids alludes me.

So I'm asking, how did you bring your dp around (or how did he/she bring you around to it) to homeschooling/unschooling??

Kylix

[Marsupialmom]

I would first suggest homeschooling then have him help you learn about different styles.

Come up with goals what you both want in your child’s education, then blend away for what works for all.

I would not get into a "we will homeschool this" way until he has an idea of you wanting to do homeschool. Many times how you homeschool falls into place with out much of a discussion.

Homeschooling is a way you live your life.

[Queen Gwen]

Dh heard someone talking about how much time is wasted with school; then started pondering how families are at the mercy of someone else's schedule (as in, you can take vacation during certain months, but not during others). Also, he realized that if he had been homeschooled he could've worked or started taking college-level classes during high school. He considered his senior year of high school to be a total waste of time, and if asked if he has any regrets in life he'll tell you that he wishes he had been homeschooled.

Once he was fine with homeschooling it was sort of up to me to figure out the how. BTW, we aren't unschoolers. He realizes, though, that *I'm* the one researching and analyzing what we do for homeschooling, and considers my opinion on the matter "professional", whereas his opinion is just, well, about as important as a ps parents is to the school, LOL.

So, I did absolutely no selling -- this was just stuff he heard on the radio and thought about, plus he knew I was sort of interested.

I guess what was important was that he thought about "what do I wish could've been different about my school experience", and it seemed pretty easy to improve on his school experiences via homeschooling.