Looking like Daddy? - Page 3

[super mamabug]

My DH has no idea if his dad is circ'd or not. Plus seriously a little boy's genitalia looks absolutely nothing like an adult's. Your son will not look like his dad. He may have a different hair or eye color, be a different height. Have a smaller/larger penis. He may be born with one testicle. Your Dh may have his nipples pierced or have had cosmetic surgery to alter his nose/eyes. None of these things would be expected to be altered on your child to make him look like Daddy, nor should they. Your son will be perfect the way he is and putting him through a painful and unnecessary procedure to avoid a rare potential conversation about why you didn't do it is pretty silly.

[hollytheteacher]

My dh was circ'd at birth and we have an intact 19 month old wonderful ds.

After learning about the horrors of circ, neither one of us wanted that for our son. Also, since learning about restoring the foreskin, my dh has slowly been working on that (do a google search for foreskin restoration if you are interested).

So maybe my ds will end up looking like daddy anyway lol.

[elisent]

My oldest son is 10 and intact. He has never seen or commented on my husband's circumcision. If he was to notice any differences I'm sure it would be with the more obvious size or hair issues.

[fresh_veggie]

I agree wit what everyone else before has said, hands down. But also...

IMHO, that argument is really weird. Lol.

[bubbamummy]

My husband is American (and from the mid-west...AND so..yeah...circ'ed) I am English, where it is very rare. When my husband bought up the topic at my birthing class everyone sat open-mouthed and said 'OMG...why on earth would you do that?'

anyway, I have actually educated my husband, I gave him websites to read and my English midwife spoke to him. Now he has gone from being pro-circ to VERY VERY anti circ. He feels violated now that his mother made that choice for him, especially when he learned how many nerve endings he lost

He spreads the word now anyway, so yeah, after my educating him the issue of 'looking like Daddy' just became completely unimportant. They look different in many other ways anyway...and, I have yet to compare my vagina to my mothers

[hakunangovi]

As Fyrestorm pointed out, there were a whole lot of intact fathers with circumcised sons in past generations. I have never seen one mention of the trauma that custom caused those little boys. This is a question I would love to put to anyone promoting the "look like Dad " argument. As in , "So what happened with all the cir'd boys with intact Dads?".
As an aside, I would much rather have explain why junior's penis is natural, than come up with a reason why we cut part of it off !!!!

[QueenOfTheMeadow]

My dh is circ'd and my three boys are not. They do, however, know what circ. is, because they heard me discussing it with a friend. So I told them what it was and why dh and I chose not to do it. They never even asked if dh had been circ'd and I sincerely think they never will. So, yeah, that line of thinking is really weird.

[LavenderMae]

My older two children (dd and ds1, ds2 is a toddler) know what circumcision is. They are both appalled anyone would choose to do that to a baby. And that's with out knowing all the gory details even.

[Fay]

I don't understand the "looking like Daddy" argument. We are talking about a cosmetic surgery. If Dad had a nose job or chin implants, would he automatically order those surgeries on his newborn son? If Mom had breast implants, would she demand the same for her daughter? Do parents typically dye their children's hair or give children colored contact lenses so that they look like their parents? If the answer to these questions is no, then the answer to circ is no.

[Treece]

Some of you have touched on this, but I want to go a little further into it. Why is it that when an Intact father wants to circ his son no doctor will say "DS needs to look like you." Yet, they do when circ father wants to leave ds intact. In fact, I had this experience. With ds1, his father is intact. When we said we' were leaving him intact, someone at the hospital said don't you want him to look like daddy? I said, sure so don't circ WHoever it was shut up.

Really the only slightly positive thing I can say about that hospital is that I wasn't really questioned alot about circ. But like I said that is is. I had 2 births there, adn the emotional trauma form the first........I digresss.

This "look like daddy" argument is so idiotic. I don't know if my father is or isn't (i assume he is, though) (i'm a girl...lol) I know that all my brothers are : BUT my sons are NOT. My nephews are. All my bf's family's kids are. What I want to know is WHY is this still allowed in our country? All I can guess is that America is scared to question authority. Plus a lot of men would have to acknowledge that their parents and doctors (mostly docs) made a mistake and they paid the ultimate price for it.

[NaturalMindedMomma]

Hair, size difference. More noticeable than foreskin.

Also, you could always use the rationale, I have breasts, my daughters do not at birth, we did not give them implants to look like me (another cosmetic surgery). I say that in all seriousness. I think that comment makes people think about what cosmetic really means. HTH!

Glad you found us here and I hope you honor your future sons right to healthy, intact, genetalia. Everyone deserves that right. :