Do you wish for boys and hope that others will have girls?

[BlessedMommy2006]

I really, really wanted a boy this time, not only because my first baby was a girl, but also because a boy would be safe from circ in our home.

There was 3 other pregnant women in my church and I pretty much knew that 2 of them would not listen or care to listen even if I got the guts to share. (One of them has had clashes with me in the past and I believe that her older two boys are already circ'ed) So I prayed for girls for them and fervently hoped and prayed for a boy for myself. I thought to myself, "I don't need a girl, because I would keep the boy intact and they likely wouldn't." So I hoped for a boy for myself and prayed for girls for them.

All three of them are having girls and I gave birth to a boy, much to my relief and delight. So no circs happening in our church this year! :

I figured that I'm likely not the only person who hopes for people to have girls when I know that the likelihood of them keeping a boy intact is low!

[Fellow Traveler]

You know what the best part of that situation is, beside saving the boy, its that you are in someways promoting intact boys. People will be more receptive if they've not done the deed yet and by having a boy you are showing other future parents that boys don't need to be circumcised.

[4Blessings]

I prefer to put my energy into positive thoughts.

It feels creepy to me that someone would wish or pray for me to have a boy or a girl rather than just wishing or praying that I am healthy and the pregnancy results in a healthy outcome. Why not wish/pray that they make the very best choices that they can as a parent?

[Sk8ermaiden]

I totally, all the time just wish that all boys would be born to intactivist mommas.

[lawmama1984]

I must admit that I do, especially when I know my friends will do it without doing research and won't be receptive to even listening to the information I could share. It just boggles my mind that parents would make decisions on certain things without putting a great deal of thought and research into it. I know one of our friends have a girl and another girl on the way. When I first told them we were leaving DS intact the husband said "ewww." He sometimes makes jokes about the intact penis (*ducks*), which I know need to stop, and I do try to counter them. Anyway, I know he is meaning to do it all in good fun, but I also know these jokes reinforce in his mind that circ is "normal" or what needs to be done.

I just ordered 4 bumper stickers, 2 pins, 2 shirts for me and DH and 3 onesies/t-shirts for our family from cafepress that I hope can spark more discussion

[Mama2Jesse]

"Think Pink" is a common phrase around here when DH's coworkers are expecting. I can't even get into some of the knuckle-dragging statements some have made about circ, but yeah... all children deserve their whole body. So yep... sigh of relief when a circumcising family has a girl, huge freaking pasty when an intactivist one has a boy. :

[nugget's mommy]

This thread struck a chord with me, because in a roundabout way, it ended up being so true for me.

I lurk here all the time (really only have time to read MDC at work and don't feel comfortable logging on and posting at work). Don't want to derail this thread, but just wanted to thank you all quickly - because of you all, we didn't make the horrible circ mistake twice. DS2 (almost a year) is intact because of all of you!

Anyway, we were pretty much the first of our friends to have a baby (4 years ago). Then everyone around us started having babies (5 women at work, 3 different good friends of ours, and a neighbor). At first I was so bummed, because baby after baby was a girl (not that ds1 couldn't play with girls, but I thought it would be fun for at least one friend to have a boy, too). Just a few weeks ago it dawned on me what a blessing in disguise that was, because I'm sure most of them would've circed, and I'm so painfully shy, I would've had a hard time even bringing it up with them. Most of them are now just having their second babies or pregnant - Guess what? Still all girls! I'm so happy about this. So for me, your post is so, so true.

[tutucrazy]

I wish girls on all my mainstream friends who I know would circ. As for myself, I want 4 boys and a girl. mwahahahahahahahha!

I have three friends having boys and thus far I have only saved one of those boys from circ. The other two are probably going to circ no matter what I give them. However, they are both getting copies of Doctors Re-examine Circumcision by Thomas Ritter and Georg Denniston and a copy of the Circumcision Decision dvd as part of their shower gifts. I don't go out without a fight.

[Treece]

I do. This backfired once. I had a new friend who was prego. She didn't know, so I prayed hard for a girl. She had a girl. We were talking and I changed ds's dipe. She said something like "Yay, no circ" I apologized for praying for her a girl and told her why. She said H*** no would she ever : NOw I pray she has 4 boys in the future.

I only want boys at this point. I know I can protect mine.

[LavenderMae]

I sure do, well I don't actually pray but I sure hope anyone I know that will circ has a girl. To me that is positive thinking and it's much better than thinking how I'd like to bash people who mutilate their babies. I think it's a pretty normal response to knowing that someone will harm a baby boy but not a baby girl.

[BlessedMommy2006]

Originally Posted by LavenderMae

I sure do, well I don't actually pray but I sure hope anyone I know that will circ has a girl. To me that is positive thinking and it's much better than thinking how I'd like to bash people who mutilate their babies. I think it's a pretty normal response to knowing that someone will harm a baby boy but not a baby girl.

Yes, definitely. It just makes me sick to think of a little baby getting hurt, so I'm just thrilled that they're all having girls and I'm rocking a sweet little intact baby boy in my lap as I type this. :

[kimmypoo]

I actually hope my next one is a girl. I asked DH if dd turned out to be a boy would we circ. and he said "of course we would", didn't even stop 2 seconds to think about it! At that time I didn't know any better and agreed. But now that I've found this forum, I would never want to do that to my child. It would just be easier to have another girl than to fight dh about it. Besides, dd needs a sister.

[robertandenith]

I want to have another boy for 2 good reasons. So far I have three children, 2 girls and a boy, but I feel like I want to have another boy and leave him intact (of course) to proof people that intact is perfectly NORMAL. My other reason is because I want to experience another homebirth, but even if I have another child I want him to be a boy for sure.

I cringe every time someone tells me they are having a boy I have sent a few people (strangers in the street) to my website, but I am thinking of making business cards for this.

nugget's mommy that's awesome ::

[Frootloop]

Well, I can no longer have children, but I definitely pray that others around me will have girls. I've yet to meet another person irl who is against circ.

I was sooooooooooooooooo very happy to find out that my rabidly PRO-circ brother's (huge fights between us over it) wife was having a baby girl that I actually cried my eyes out in relief. If she would have been a boy, he without question would have been circ'd and likely without any pain relief, too, as he and the doctors where he lives aren't too concerned with it. :

[nugget's mommy]

Thanks robertandenith

[LionessMom]

i too have prayed that a certain someone have a girl b/c i know they are dead set pro circ. we will find out in a couple of months i guess.

i want a boy myself. b/c DH has nevered fathered a boy, only 2 girls and i think it would be great for him. he dosent think he can have boys lol. in 6 weeks we will find out. i am pretty sure it is a boy and already had the discussion with him. he had the usual responses. like a deer int he headlights. i gave him my info etc. in the end i told him that in order to circ you need my consent. i refuse to consent. he never brought it up again. i wont bring it up again either. as far as i am concerned the decision is made. yay for protecting our boys.

i have a friend that needs informing though, she isnt preg yet so i have time. hopefully seeing my baby being intact will help her get over the whole "its dirty thing".