Rapid labor and not making it to hospital - Page 3

[Penny4Them]

Thanks All.
Laura, Thanks for the encouragement. I'm going to see if I can find a CMN to talk with us at least. We are struggling financially so it would be tough to pay for full services, but maybe we have options that could appease both my Dh AND me

[TzippityDoulah]

Originally Posted by Penny4Them

Thanks All.
Laura, Thanks for the encouragement. I'm going to see if I can find a CMN to talk with us at least. We are struggling financially so it would be tough to pay for full services, but maybe we have options that could appease both my Dh AND me

sounds like a great place to start!

[EdnaMarie]

Originally Posted by Penny4Them

Thanks All.
Laura, Thanks for the encouragement. I'm going to see if I can find a CMN to talk with us at least. We are struggling financially so it would be tough to pay for full services, but maybe we have options that could appease both my Dh AND me

Good luck! I hope that your DH will see the reason in having backup. So long as you are planning to go to the hospital, I don't see why you should have to pay the whole cost of the birth. As far as I know, from paying for pre-natal only (I switched mid-way) the pre-natal is only half the total cost, and then the peri-natal and post-natal are the other half in many practices. And of course that would ONLY be if you did happen to have the baby at home, and the midwife came. Otherwise you might only have to pay her for one or two sessions.

[TzippityDoulah]

generally thought midwives still have to charge something if they are counting on yor birth b/c they reserve that time for YOU. it's more pay on time they devote to making sure they are available for your birth. it woudn't be right ot ask a midwife to come just incase but not pay her... unless perhaps she was a friend or you had some kinda deal worked out with her or whatever.

[EdnaMarie]

Oh, yes, but not the full fee, right? I mean... my midwife discounts a substantial amount if you do not end up using her for post-natal or peri-natal care IF it is for a medical reason. I just meant, there should be a way not to pay the whole fee up front. Maybe they can work something out.

[SeekingJoy]

OP, you are in Raleigh, right? You have several midwife choices. A CNM and lay. Check out the threads on our tribe or PM me.

[TzippityDoulah]

Originally Posted by EdnaMarie

Oh, yes, but not the full fee, right? I mean... my midwife discounts a substantial amount if you do not end up using her for post-natal or peri-natal care IF it is for a medical reason. I just meant, there should be a way not to pay the whole fee up front. Maybe they can work something out.

I think some midwives would be willing to work with that, sure. just have to find the right one.

[MegBoz]

Originally Posted by Penny4Them

I really would prefer a planned homebirth, however out of respect for my Dh and his concerns (and fears, esp b/c of his profession--he's exposed to lots of stuff that is always going wrong-death stuff) I have decided to strive for a home-like birth in hospital.

Just wanted to add that becuase of his profession, your DH may have a bit of a skewed perception of pregnancy & birth. Reminds me of the article by Dr. Marsdan Wagner, "Fish can't see the water they swim in." Basically, OBs don't even understand their role in causing iatrogenic problems because they don't ever see birth in any other setting but medical/ high-tech birth! So they ASSUME all birth requires their help to "rescue" baby & mama - not knowing they've caused many of the problems in the first place!

I think it's really hard for Americans to wrap our heads around the fact that HB, for healthy Mams with healthy pregnancies, is really, truly safe. But that's the truth.
: Of course, it's equally hard, IMO, to wrap your head around what a true atrocity our maternity "care" is as well & how docs are practicing anti-evidence based care! OK, sorry, rant over!

[TzippityDoulah]

HB is often safer for moms who aren't healthy too!!

(take it from me on that one! I was so severely mismanaged with my OB and my midwife, I took things into my own hands this time - the only time i didn't end up seriously ill!)

[OneLove]

I was trying to have a hospital birth to save money (my insurance won't cover home or birthcenter). I signed up with a group that has midwives and a hospital birthcenter.

But I too was visualizing not getting to the hospital on time, especially as this pregnancy has become increasingly medicalized (first bc I am 37, thus high risk, and now I have been diagnosed with GD - though I am sure that I can control it with diet, and that I probably won't even high insulin levels, if I don't eat sugar).

There is no way that I am going to "labor" in the hospital.
I know that going to the hospital with my first child stalled my labor. (I was 5 inches when I got there, and 5 inches 12 hours later). With my second I stayed home for a really long time, even though I was going to a free standing BirthCenter. My son's birthing was about 4 hours all together. I got to the BC fully dilated and birthed the baby w/in 40 minutes -- that seemed like a real waste of money!

Since I keep seeing myself as NOT getting to the hospital, I started reading the UC board. I wanted some idea of what I would need, should I not make it to the hospital (bc I really don't want to go to the hospital!) And the main thing I am concerned with is my own bleeding, though they do give some recipes and links for tinctures that you can use to stop bleeding. You should read that board a bit.

Also, if I have a tear, I think I would like to have someone here to sew it up, rather than having to go to the hospital for that. BUT, if I did go to the hospital after an emergency homebirth, I would not check the baby in, and I would not let them do anything/touch the baby.

I really like the idea of having a midwife that you could call if there is a home birth situation. For your after care and for the birth certificate. You might even want a midwife with you in the hospital if you are really hoping to have a natural birth experience.

I have now decided to go for a homebirth, bc I do not want to deal with the hospital and all their standardized practices. I have a meeting with a midwife next week.

I think that you should find a midwife for back up.

Andee

[Pookietooth]

As far as finding a mw, did you already post in your Finding Your Tribe area?