I've missed you gals!! I need to explain, let it out, and for you all to tell me it all is a means to some sort of really great end!
I went to my Mom's last night (right now that's not far and we are using her bathroom) and we got to talking about the family land, the mess it all is in, and how the two Uncles "now" want to divide it...maybe divide some of it...share the rest, whatever. Then on to how complicated it all is between other bits of land, burial plots, etc.
Next thing I know, we're fussing about real things between us. I admit I was a bit high strung and my Mom tends to think that's not the best trait while fussing. It was a mess. The short version is her saying, "So I was a bad mother. We were bad parents. I can't have an opinion around you. You should respect me, no matter how old you are." My version was, "I can't explain how you treated me as a child that messed me up, it's hard, it isn't like a physical beating, but you did. None of you here make me feel as if any of this land is worthy of me sitting on it. Then, if I ignored you in public (which I have), maybe you should ask yourself WHY I did that. I'm not perfect, but you don't see anything you do as harmful to anyone. It's so subtle, yet really there. I think, as I'm now an adult, we should be on equal footing." It went on and on...these bits may simply confuse you even more...I don't know. I just know she keeps "picking" on my life because she holds out hope that I'll make better choices, doesn't see how this is annoying and doesn't think that should cause the lack of respect we now give her.
Today, I invited her to come to Walmart with me and she did. We didn't say more than a few words to each other. One way is like a 40 minute drive.
I ended up saying today, "This is the part of the land I want. A two acre spot. The rest is like, whatever." She's like, "We'll have to see."
This isn't fun at all.