Unconditional Parenting Chapter 4: Punitive Damages - Page 2

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Originally Posted by dogretro

I loved this point, too. It's funny how the only form of correction/direction that no one ever says kids need more of is brainstorming and team problem solving.

I do remember, though, as a child, not listening to my parents b/c I didnt want to. They would say to unload the dishwasher or do my homework or feed the dog, and if I didnt want to, I just wouldnt. I think that point is another one that is not black and white. Yes, our kids want US more than anyone else in the world, but we will still tell them things that they do not want to hear.

i didn't even attempt team problem solving... one reason is my dd's friend D is sooo passive. she just shuts down when she's hurting. most of the time she isn't very proactive. she tattles on my dd a lot and it drives me batty, to be honest...i always will redirect her to my dd and tell her to tell my dd what she told me...and i'm thinking it fuels my dd's cruelty to her friend...at she told me...so yeah, she will then tell my dd to stop whatever she didn't like and so on...but that doesn't stop my dd. (lol my ds just pinched dd's nipple! they are laughing...i am too)

i also was the same way, dogreto...if i didn't feel like doing something as a child/teen, i didn't do it. still is very hard for me as an adult to do things i don't want to do. even if it needs to be done... do dishes, clean up toys, get to dd's school on time when i'm sooo tired...etc. my parents were either really scary and freaking out on me...or they were totally permissive. i pretty much ruled the family. (i was the only child) so i have a lot of that 'entitlement' mentality i think...

sigh. so a lot of the time its like i'm a kid raising 2 kids...that is what it feels like...

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HELLO?! (echo: HELLO?!) anyone there??? (echo: anyone there???)

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I'm working a lot and preparing to travel a very long distance for a very short period of time (long flights and layovers, just DD and me - wish me luck.)
But I have read the next chapter and will jump in probably during my night shift next week.

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