Throwing things that hurt

[mosky22]

My DD Amanda is 14 months old and has develpoed a bad behavior of throwing things at my husband. She is stonger than you might think and ussually throws things that are pretty hard like blocks and books. It hurst DH both physically and emotionally. We have tried to explian to her verbally that she is hurting us and that it is not acceptable to throw things. I have also advised my DH to just stop playing with her and get up and walk away when she does this. I welcome any advise on this issue.

[Kirsten]

My daughters didn't really do much of this but the little boy I nannied for before having my own kids did. I would tell him that we only throw balls. Then the thrown item went up onto the bar. He could see it but couldn't get to it. At the end of the day, all items came back down. Some days he'd test me and everything but the balls would be up on the bar! But after a few days, he got it and didn't throw things anymore.

I think it was also helpful to give him the words to express his frustration - or at least verbalize it for him even if he couldn't use the words.

Also, does she not throw things at other people (you, gramma, etc)? Does she perceive your dh as the fun, roughhouse one and is just trying to play? Or is she trying to get his attention and that is the guaranteed way to do it? Maybe he played ball with her in the past and she is generalizing it to other toys?

Hope you get it figured out soon. Tell your dh not to take it personally - there are stages where you are the favored one and stages where he is.
Kirsten

[mosky22]

Thank You Kirsten.

We will try the taking toys away that have been thrown. I like that idea.

It is true that my husband does roughouse with her more than anyone else, and no it is not nearly as much of a problem for me or grammy. But I still don't see why that leads to her throwing things at him.
It ussually happens while he is sitting close to her and is giving her his attention.

I will try to give her more words to express herself and I think I will try to see what preceeds the throwing.

Thanks for the food for thought.

[oceanbaby]

Yep, that's what we do here. Ds will get a warning or a reminder about not throwing a certain item, and if he does it, then it gets taken away and put up where he can't get it.