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post #21 of 52
4/20/09 at 5:23pm
Is there a way to set up the master bedroom for your daughters to be separate even though they're together?Like using book shelves to make walls?Or hanging curtains from the ceiling?Or using low shelves as half walls and curtains on rollers hanging from the ceiling so they can have a full "wall"when they want privacy?
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post #22 of 52
4/20/09 at 5:25pm
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rere, that's a great idea! My mom is super creative where I cannot think outside of the box AT ALL, and I bet she could rig something up like that

I'm going to talk with younger DD and kind of see what would make her feel comfortable. Big DD thinks it would be a fantastic thing to have the big bedroom for her and her sister- it's like moving to a whole new house for her- she's always up for an adventure
post #23 of 52
4/20/09 at 5:26pm
maybe sparky was suggesting the oldest & the baby?
post #24 of 52
4/20/09 at 5:39pm
I think it's a fabulous idea.
post #25 of 52
4/20/09 at 5:40pm
I would do whatever would make the house most functional, regarless of how other people think you "should" (ie parents only in the master, etc).
post #26 of 52
4/20/09 at 7:33pm
I agree that you should do whatever is functional for your family. I was an only child who grew up in 2 bedroom apartments and I always had the larger room. My parents used their room only for sleeping while I had toys, dressers, bookshelves, and most importantly - a desk (my parents were academically oriented and big believers in children having their own desk for homework/creative work). It did not lead me to having a sense of entitlement or affect our family dynamics in any way - it was just a bigger room.
post #27 of 52
4/20/09 at 7:55pm
We gave our master bedroom to our two older boys (it's 3 times the size of the next largest bedroom), because then DH and I get separate home offices in our 4 bedroom house.

Our boys have more toys, they have gymnastics mats they play on, and they get a tiny half bath to use (which has been great for late-night bathroom trips).

Unless you make a big deal in front of the kids about getting THE MASTER BEDROOM, they won't know that they're getting anything special. And if it works for your family, do it.
post #28 of 52
4/20/09 at 8:10pm
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post #29 of 52
4/20/09 at 8:25pm
I might have missed this, but why not keep everyone where they are and the baby with you? The baby isn't going to notice, or care, about the room situation. Then once the baby gets older you can deal with 2 kids sharing a room.
post #30 of 52
4/20/09 at 10:41pm
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Originally Posted by Maeve View Post
I might have missed this, but why not keep everyone where they are and the baby with you? The baby isn't going to notice, or care, about the room situation. Then once the baby gets older you can deal with 2 kids sharing a room.
Depending on the baby's temperament, he or she might care a LOT, and demand to be close to mom all night every night. I know if I'd tried to keep DS in another room as an infant I'd be awake all night putting him back to sleep.
post #31 of 52
4/21/09 at 1:16am
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Originally Posted by Maeve View Post
I might have missed this, but why not keep everyone where they are and the baby with you? The baby isn't going to notice, or care, about the room situation. Then once the baby gets older you can deal with 2 kids sharing a room.
This is what I would do, especially before making such huge changes.

I think if I had 4 kids and 3 non-master bedrooms, if it turned out to be 2 and 2 (gender wise), I would have everyone share and make the 3rd bedroom a playroom.

I am a big fan of not keeping much stuff (e.g. toys) in the bedrooms anyway, they are for sleeping, storing clothes, etc.

I agree though, do whatever works for you, I just wouldn't worry about it now.
post #32 of 52
4/21/09 at 1:31am
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Originally Posted by JamieCatheryn View Post
Depending on the baby's temperament, he or she might care a LOT, and demand to be close to mom all night every night. I know if I'd tried to keep DS in another room as an infant I'd be awake all night putting him back to sleep.

I agree, I wasn't trying to say to put the baby in his own room. What I was saying is that it's (imo) not as important to the baby to have his own room as it would be for the older kids.
post #33 of 52
4/21/09 at 4:15am
My THREE kids share a room right now. In fact, DH and I know if we put DD in her own room - she'd just go sleep on the floor near her brothers in their room. :/ No point in separating, all three kids are very attached to one another.

So yes, all three have the master in our house. Being it's where they sleep, play, keep their toys, etc.? Makes more sense for them to have it vs. us having it, since all DH and I do is sleep in ours and store our clothes. We don't read in our room, use our laptop in our room, etc. even.

Now, if we have a baby - layout will stay the same until baby moves out of our room, then we'll move baby in with DD into their own room. We are guessing by that time, DD will want her own space.
post #34 of 52
4/21/09 at 9:28am
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Originally Posted by KayleeZoo View Post
rere, that's a great idea! My mom is super creative where I cannot think outside of the box AT ALL, and I bet she could rig something up like that

I'm going to talk with younger DD and kind of see what would make her feel comfortable. Big DD thinks it would be a fantastic thing to have the big bedroom for her and her sister- it's like moving to a whole new house for her- she's always up for an adventure


Ikea has all sorts room set up ideas that might inspire you and your mom with ways to make it happen.

Oh and my sister and I shared the master.I like my own space too and I'm so glad that my mom moved us in there.I was able to make my own little nook.And I don't think my mom was giving up too much to us.When she had the master it was plain and pretty empty.After we switched rooms her room was decorated and personalized.She liked the switch just as much as we did.

And I can totally understand why you're planning it all out now.I have to have things figured out in order to be comfortable with a new situation.I want it figured out so I can move on.
post #35 of 52
4/21/09 at 1:51pm
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Originally Posted by KayleeZoo View Post
I keep thinking that the smartest thing would be to put the 2 older kids (both girls, 9 and almost 6.5) in the master bedroom and move our stuff to the biggest kid bedroom and put the baby in the other girl's room....
If the baby is going to eventually share a room with your daughter, then you don't need to move anyone. I too would have concerns about the bathroom, not to mention the thought of moving all that furniture gives me a headache!

Besides, you could probably use a space of your own to rest and be with your DH when you get 'us time'.
post #36 of 52
4/23/09 at 12:51am
I live in a 2 bd house, and my kids have the master. Lots of reasons. The master is on the 3rd level, the other bedroom is on the 1st level. The living room and kitchen are on the 2nd level.

The other bedroom is right next to the "den" (DH's man-cave) and also has a door leading to a swimming pool (big safely issue). It's also pretty small. But since I mainly hang out in the living room and have most of my stuff there, it seems rational to give the big bedroom to the kids so they can spread all their toys around where I don't have to step on them .

BTW, we co-sleep, either in their room or in my room--we do musical beds here a lot.
post #37 of 52
4/23/09 at 12:56am
When we lived in a two bedroom, my older two had the master. It just made the most sense for us. It wasn't any sort of sacrifice for us. If it works for you, do it. I don't imagine it will turn your kids into narcissistic animals.
post #38 of 52
4/23/09 at 12:59am
no, we would never give up our master bedroom. All my kids do in their rooms is sleep and get dressed anyway so long as there is room for beds then it is just fine for us.
post #39 of 52
4/23/09 at 2:15am
You should just do what works best for you. We have 5 kids in a 2 bedroom...dh and I and the youngest 2 (1 and 4)sleep in one bed in our room, and the 3 older boys ( 11, 12, 16) share the other room in bunk beds. We're fine. Whatever route you choose, you'll be fine too. It sounds like you don't really care about the room, so in your shoes, I'd give it up too. The kids have the bigger of our rooms too....because, as has been said..they play in there, their "stuff" is in there..they need more room. Dh and I are lucky to fall down in our bed and and obtain a minimal amount of sleep. It isn't a sanctuary or whatever...for those to whom it is, that'sgreat and all..but for some of us, it's a place to fall horizontal for not enough hours and where our clothes live. LOL.
post #40 of 52
4/23/09 at 2:53am
I think you could brainstorm up a bunch of ideas and present them to the family.
Something will work out.
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