Originally Posted by MamaMandaJ
No, I would definitely NOT allow my 12 year old to refer to herself with that word. It's incredibly demeaning. I've heard it used mostly by teenage boys and inappropriate men. "Gonna get some pussy." Vulgar.
I am actually a bit saddened that someone so young would use it so comfortably.
ive always used the word. I also use "the C word". not in public venues or at work, Im not uneducated or ignorant. But *I* define my body, and my language... Im not going to let crass, rude and ignorant men banish a word from use because i do not feel that any word meaning vagina or vulva is crass or vulgar.
Originally Posted by the_lissa
I have seen a lot more words than the p word being used in porn.
Ina May gaskin uses it in her books. I find it really off putting because I believe in using correct terminology, but lots of people use the p word in non sexual or putting down ways.
I love that ina may used it.
It is not a word owned by men to degrade women.
I do not have a teen, I saw this in new posts.... but I think it is *great* that your daughter felt comfortable and liberated enough to discuss her body in the way she feels comfortable with you.
If you start regulating her vocabulary with you, what message will that send? that there are certain things not to be said or discussed with your mother? certain words that you can only say with friends?
that she is vulgar or dirty for using a word?
Why not ask her why she identifies with that word and let her share what experience she has with it?
maybe that word empowers her in some way we havent thought of?
before you censor her- Id ask more questions!