Originally Posted by tynme
What are some age appropriate chores for a neurotypical 12 year old boy, and a 8 year old girl with pretty severe ADHD/OCD?
Also, what is an appropriate allowance for each, or would it be better to provide a list of optional chores, and assign each one a monetary value (I.E. sweep, $1) or whatever? What would be appropriate for that?
well, i don't know exactly. when i was 12 i worked 2 part time jobs, set the table every night, cleared and cleaned the table after, washed dishes after supper, fed our 3 dogs, cleaned my room and was learning to do my own laundry, and cut the grass on a rotation with dad and little bro. Of course there were always other little small odd jobs here and there as needed. I didn't get an allowance, that was what the jobs were for. (they were at the family business and a friends stable, so i was paid cash under the table) I wouldn't have had it any other way. I earned a great deal of pride doing it that way, and a good work ethic.
My dd (age 6) helps feed our farm animals every morning (pigs, chickens, dogs, goats, horse, cow) in return for us buying the feed for her ducks. she has 3 right now, but has ordered 10 more to add to her flock. She plans to raise them and sell them to save money to buy a car when she is bigger. She is 100% responsible for those. any monetary input we give is earned by chores, as she needs things, we find jobs for her to do that are things we know she can handle, and are fair for the amount earned. She and my ds (3) both know that if they want money, they don't come ask "can i have some money?" they ask "can i have a job to earn some money?" and we give them something and they earn it. ds helps put away laundry. Being 3 of course, this takes some time to help him, but it will pay off. Of course when i ask them to help with housework every now and then, it is usually considered just pulling their weight.
Maybe for the younger one, you could let her have some input on what she would like her chores to be. maybe a flexible routine where she picks something different each week. That way you can stick to what she is motivated about at the moment.