How is tethering your child to your arm instilling independence? Truly?
I mean no harm, I just don't understand this mentality.
I think that if you(general)take a stand on a parenting choice, such as breastfeeding, cosleeping, no leashing, homeschooling, etc. than you make it work regardless of the "different personalities" a child has and the challenges facing you.
For me, attachment parenting is about fostering a connection, and meeting my son's needs. Period. We did look to breastfeeding and co-sleeping for that, but if my son had, for example, needed to sleep in his own space we'd've run with it.
For us, the leash did that much better at the particular stage for which it was useful: It met his need to explore, to touch (with both hands, and to fall with both hands), and to have some freedom of movement, while meeting my need for safety.
The reason I bring it up on these threads, I guess, is because I felt it really enabled me to get out of the role of "hall monitor/disciplinarian" and really BE with him in situations where normally I would have been much more on guard. I really feel that it increased our attachment. I would never, ever have guessed that some contraption would have. Sure, if we were in a park with no cars it would have been different.
He certainly wasn't on it all the time, but when it worked, it really, really worked. I remember being in the butterfly pavillion with him crouched down touching the leaves and a butterfly landing on his shoe... it was such a moment of wonder, and holding hands (it was fairly crowded behind us) we would have missed it because he was partway under a little branch... anyway. At the park it wouldn't have been necessary. But we enjoyed those times, and the auto show where he got to climb! on! cars! and touch! tires! and... gosh. So many good memories of him toddling around.
I'm a worrier, so that was a factor too.