I'm still surprised that so many MDC mamas haven't learned that different things work for different children and their families.
I'm still surprised that so many MDC mamas are so invested in considering themselves superior and looking down on others for making different choices for those different children and different circumstances.
I wasn't asking permission for the freedom. More along the lines of asking for respect and consideration of the fact that we are all different. And, just as I wouldn't sit in judgment of another parent who's doing the best they can in their situation, I would hope that another parent wouldn't sit in judgment of me. Obviously, that's too much to ask for. Still, I have hope that the people on a forum where so many unconventional parenting methods are supported would open their minds to the concept that what works for them may not work for someone else. That doesn't make any of us wrong, or mean that we're somehow harming our children. It means, quite simply, that we're in different circumstances. That happens in a world where everyone's unique.
We used our harness today at the zoo. My one son has PDD and CP. He's also small for his age; holding is hand can be uncomfortable for everyone, especially when it's warm out. He tends to dart away from me, especially in parking lots. He also has a twin brother. I'll take the harness over him getting hit by a car any day.
I know our situation, I know my child's needs. I don't care if other people judge us, though of course I'd prefer if they didn't. If you feel : by a harness, by all means, don't use one.