Originally Posted by sisteeesmama
Ultimately it just goes against my whole philosphy as a mom to leash my child. You won't convince me that it has it's place. Of course you are free to make your own choice for your family, I just don't have to agree that it's a good one.
so don't do it. And the choice in my family is NOT to use a harness, but I'm not close minded about it either. I am able to see that what there is no place for in my family there may be a place for in another family. It's not demeaning for one parent to give their child respect in an area you would choose not to because you would see it as spoiling to give the child what they want (the harness)... perhaps you think letting a child wear a harness is spoiling, based on what you said, but demeaning? no.
*causing awareness of your shortcomings (wanting to use a harness is not making a child any more aware of their inability to stay close to the parent then is holding hands, verbally redirecting, or using a stroller/sling)
*Dehumanization is a process by which members of a group of people assert the "inferiority" of another group through subtle or overt acts or statements. (parent is not asserting over the child to wear a harness, child WANTS to wear a harness. I suppose, if anything, by this definition perhaps you feel that using a harness would be demeaning TO YOU not to your child, by respecting your childs desire to use one, that would take away from the superior feelings you have when you dont use one)
*take down: reduce in worth or character, usually verbally (this is not accomplished by respecting the child. If you said "a monkey back pack! what a great idea! you get your freedom and I know you will stay safe! would UPLIFT the child, not demean them)
*demeaningly - humiliatingly: in a humiliating manner (child isnt humiliated, so child is demeaned. again perhaps you would feel humiliated, then it would be demeaning. or perhaps YOUR child would feel humiliated, in which case we all agree it would be demeaning. the parents here who have used them have children who are happy to use them, and DONT feel humiliated, and therefor THEY are not being demeaned. )
However by many of these definitions one could say YOU are demeaning the people use harnesses.