It's my 20 year old so I really can't do anything except not let her smoke in the house and remember how hard it was for me to quit and everything my own mother did that didn't help.
She stinks. I'm sorry, but she stinks. She's a dancer. I can't believe she's doing this to herself. But she is.
Soooo.....the only thing that worked for me was cold turkey. I tried cutting back, I tried nicorette gum, i tried everything. It was miserable.i was unreasonably emotional. I got on http://www.quitnet.com
at all hours of the night to whine and compare symptoms (did you know that detoxing from nicotine gives you the most horrendous case of the farts? I didn't.) and when I found cigarettes i forgot to throw away, i couldn't go near them and had to ask my then-thirteen-year-old son to tear them up, soak the debris, take it to the outdoor garbage can, and cover it with used kitty litter.
But i got through it. So will our kids. I wish they didn't have to, but we need to support them when they do and not alienate them so they won't be afraid to ask for our help when they need it.
I'm glad cigarettes aren't illegal because I don't want dd to go to jail. It doesn't matter what they cost because she's unemployed, doesn't have any money,and I don't have a clue where she's getting them. We have cancer in our family too and she's seen people she love get sick and die.
This sucks. It just plain sucks. It doesn't make me feel old,though,because i feel a good 20 years younger than i did when i was a smoker and my five year quittiversary is coming up in September.
Our kids will have quittiversaries to celebrate too someday. All i can do is keep on believing that.