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post #21 of 37
OP we were actually in the ddc together in nov 07! I will have an almost 4 and a just turning 2 when this one arrives. DD was only 21 mo when DS was born and the first three months were insane. Just getting used to taking care of two at a time was a lot of work, and DD learning to share me and my milk. After that it is almost easier than having one. They entertain each other and I get a lot more done than I ever did with just 1. You will find your rhythm! The sling is a lifesaver in the early months. I am planning on getting a double stroller this time so I can sling the newest and still push the older two if needed.
When going shopping I try to park next to a cart return, so I can grab a cart and toss in both kids before going in (now that DS is older) before I would toss in DD and stand next to the cart to put DS in a sling. I also taught DD to "touch the van" right next to my leg and not let go while I was putting DS in and out. We still use that a lot. Now DS might not catch on to that so I might need another trick for him this time around. You also can carry one babe in arms and hold the others hand to walk into a place if needed. I sling my diaper bag over my shoulder and go everywhere like this.
post #22 of 37
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Originally Posted by C-Momma View Post
I'll have a 3 yr old...I worry a lot about tandem nursing and how ds will react to sharing his milk.
kayleigh was 23mo when ethan was born, and i weaned her a week after ethan was born. lots of people can do it, i just couldn't. part of it may have been i was on my own with dh gone, but she was a greedy nurser. lol! we had the most trouble during the night. daytime wasn't so bad, but she did NOT like to share at night. so i made an executive decision and weaned her. she never asked again.

ethan was still nursing when i got pregnant with norah. i actually found out i was pregnant on his second birthday. i weaned him when i was 3mo along, right before dh deployed. i knew i couldn't wean him alone, and i knew if i kept nursing, we'd have a replay of the first time.

i'm worried with norah. she's only 16mo, so i can't even imagine weaning her, yet, let alone moving her from our bed..... but i don't want to tandem again. so dh refinished the toddler bed this week, and we're going to move her sometime soon. i'm not going to 100% wean her, but try night weaning first (she's been nursing at least 5x a night lately). i would like her fully weaned by the time new baby gets here, though. even though it woudl be earlier than the other two. :/
post #23 of 37
Haley will be 2.5 when the baby comes. I'm hoping these last 8 teeth are in by then b/c she has been MISERABLE the last two weeks.

I've been going back and forth on double strollers and I think I'm leaning more towards avoiding it. DD doesn't really use the stroller as it is so it seems silly to invest in a double for just the one rider. Now I have to convince DH to babywear. Otherwise he'll do the carrier-in-stroller ALL.THE.TIME.!

I've already had two car seats in my car and it wasn't too big of a deal. When DD was around 13 months I had her convertible and her infant seat in the car b/c she was falling asleep on the way to work. It was eaiser to keep her asleep by putting her in the infant seat (which she hadn't outgrown) and carrying her in than taking her out. I'm more concerned about how DD will react to Daddy not sitting in the back with her and reading books.
post #24 of 37
My son will be 2.5 when this one is born!
post #25 of 37
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Originally Posted by impromptukiss View Post
kayleigh was 23mo when ethan was born, and i weaned her a week after ethan was born. lots of people can do it, i just couldn't. part of it may have been i was on my own with dh gone, but she was a greedy nurser. lol! we had the most trouble during the night. daytime wasn't so bad, but she did NOT like to share at night. so i made an executive decision and weaned her. she never asked again.

ethan was still nursing when i got pregnant with norah. i actually found out i was pregnant on his second birthday. i weaned him when i was 3mo along, right before dh deployed. i knew i couldn't wean him alone, and i knew if i kept nursing, we'd have a replay of the first time.

i'm worried with norah. she's only 16mo, so i can't even imagine weaning her, yet, let alone moving her from our bed..... but i don't want to tandem again. so dh refinished the toddler bed this week, and we're going to move her sometime soon. i'm not going to 100% wean her, but try night weaning first (she's been nursing at least 5x a night lately). i would like her fully weaned by the time new baby gets here, though. even though it woudl be earlier than the other two. :/
I am planning similiarly. Luke nightweaned on his own soon into pregnancy but kept up nursing during the day all the way through and then we tandemed off and on for about a year. It was miserable really, I don't want to repeat. Lily is not acting like she wants to nightwean on her own so I am working on it and the plan is to completely wean before the baby gets here- we will see how the last part goes. Also- I never moved Luke out of our bed so it has been the both of them the last 2 years- however I don't want 3 kids in the bed so they will be moving out together hopefully in the next couple of months. As it is we are terribly crowded and I am so tired of crawling over everyone to go pee at night.
post #26 of 37
DS will be 2.5 when the baby is born. He's starting to communicate more with words so I am hoping that by the time the baby comes he will be a lot better and that will make it easier for both of us. I'm debating getting a double stroller- we use our stroller for DS for when we are out and about all day, but I think I'll hold off on buying a double and see if I can just use a sling for the new baby. I'm hoping by the time I'll want to use it for the baby DS will be old enough to walk the whole time.

Two carseats won't be that big of a deal- we have an Altima which has a pretty spacious backseat for a car. I've had two carseats back there before and while it takes up the whole backseat it's not cramped.

Things like bedtime and naps concern me a little because DS needs help to fall asleep but I'm trying not to worry about it because who knows how much he will have grown by November.
post #27 of 37
DS will be 2 years, 8 months when the new little one is born.
I'm trying to take it all in stride. DS is still nursing anywhere from 3-6x a day. In the past week, he's consistently been more in the 3-4x range and I feel comfortable with that trend. I haven't given much consideration to tandeming, but if that's the way it goes, so be it.
I do hope that DS will be moving closer towards potty learning though! He's 25 months now and uses the potty *occasionally* but is not really motivated yet.

My big worry is about space. We own a two-family house, so we basically live in a 2 bedroom apartment. It will be fine for the time being, but not the long run.
post #28 of 37
I have a toddler now, but he'll be 3 just a couple of months after this baby comes, so he probably won't feel quite so little by then...he feels little now though!!!

My mom had her first 4 in 5 years...
A friend of mine thought she was having 4 in 5 years but whoops it's twins so it's 5 in 5 years...
And another friend of mine, well, 12m between #1 and #2, 19m between #2 and #3, expecting this fall (21 m)...and just found out that it's twin boys.
So that will be 5 kids in just over 4 years.


See, don't you feel like you've got it easy now?!
post #29 of 37
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My due date is 2 days shy of DD's second birthday. And honestly, I don't know how I am going to do it. I know people do it all the time- DH and his brother are 11 months apart. But my MIL is sooo laid back... I am thinking down to the stroller. Do I need a side-by-side? Or a front and back? Or do I just put the baby in the sling? how do I fit 2 carseats in the car? How do I maneuver them both out the door? What about grocery shopping??

I am a chronic worrier and i know I just need to roll with it.. I am just thinking about the logistics.
Maybe I should not have had that cup of coffee this morning.
Hi Kerri, not in your DDC club with this bebe (go NOV 07!!)... I worry about the same things. We are going to get a side-by-side and I plan on wearing the new baby when I push my son in the other stroller. We bought DS#1 a great stroller and I don't want to get rid of it, so exercise type walks I'll just wear new baby.

I have no clue what I will do about grocery shopping. I can't image West being old enough to not sit in the cart. Maybe I'll have to wear new baby in the store too... or I'll just send DH on the shopping trips... or wait until he gets home.

We'll figure it out I guess
post #30 of 37
My daughter will be 2.75 when this baby is born. I'm terrified of the very beginning. I don't want my daughter to feel "abandoned" or sad about sharing my attention. But I think it will also be so good for her and she'll love being a big sister.
My main concern is having a newborn at the beginning of a long New England winter. My toddler is happy as a clam if she can spend the entire day outside... winter will be tough, and we've got a tiny house. I'm nervous...
post #31 of 37
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Originally Posted by kirstenb View Post
DS will be 2.5 when the baby is born. He's starting to communicate more with words so I am hoping that by the time the baby comes he will be a lot better and that will make it easier for both of us. I'm debating getting a double stroller- we use our stroller for DS for when we are out and about all day, but I think I'll hold off on buying a double and see if I can just use a sling for the new baby. I'm hoping by the time I'll want to use it for the baby DS will be old enough to walk the whole time.

Two carseats won't be that big of a deal- we have an Altima which has a pretty spacious backseat for a car. I've had two carseats back there before and while it takes up the whole backseat it's not cramped.

Things like bedtime and naps concern me a little because DS needs help to fall asleep but I'm trying not to worry about it because who knows how much he will have grown by November.
Thats pretty much our story. DS will be almost 2.5yo. He is very high maintenance. Add on top of that, that he is about to be diagnosed with celiac disease and we will be newly gluten free with an already limited diet (due to his pickiness) I'll probably sling new babe and stroller or hand hold ds depending where we are. Carseats might be a pain when 6'3" DH is in the car and puts the seat all the way back. Hopefully DS won't bug the babe and I can put them side by side. Mostly concerned about napping here too. DS is not a good sleeper and still very reliant on me to get to sleep.
But if my friend with a new 1mo DS and a 13mo DD can do it, so can we. Shes an inspiration!
post #32 of 37
My DS will be about 2y3m when this baby comes... I was/am a little nervous, too but there isn't much I can do about it now, right? In regards to the stroller issue, I plan on slinging the baby for quite awhile and then deciding if we need a double stroller after he or she gets here. DS has been walking since 11 months old and I try to practice a lot of him walking with me places to familiarize him with the importance of holding my hand, not running into traffic, etc. Plus he's over 30 lbs and pregnancy has taken a toll on how long I can hold him. He's a pretty spirited child and we're currently having issues with hitting and general aggressiveness so I'm sure it will be an adventure!
post #33 of 37
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OK. I feel better. We had a girl start at work today who has 3 kids under 3 and she gave me lots of good tips too. Wow, there are a few of us from the Nov 07 DDC! I guess I will be leaning on you all to try to maintain what smidge of sanity I have left....
post #34 of 37
I will have 2 toddlers when this LO is born. My ds will be 3 and 3 mos and my dd will be turning 2 a little over a month after the baby is due. I will get gray hair I am guessing lol I never thought I would have 3, 3 and under.
post #35 of 37
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I will have 2 toddlers when this LO is born. My ds will be 3 and 3 mos and my dd will be turning 2 a little over a month after the baby is due. I will get gray hair I am guessing lol I never thought I would have 3, 3 and under.
I hear you! For about a month when this babe comes we will have 3 under 3!!

Re: grocery shopping. Ds1 was 20 months when ds2 was born and already rode in the reg seat on the cart. I then would sling or wrap ds2 (got good at lifting him with babe on my front! We still do this now (though I've been putting ds2 on my back in the wrap lately cuz I made a new wrap . Not sure what I'll do with three. I guess I'll have to lay the smack down with ds1 about walking and not running away...yikes! He should be able to do that at 3, right? Right????
post #36 of 37
When this babe is born I will have an 11 yo dd, 6 yo dd, 3.5 yo dd, and 1.5 yo ds. Just roll with it. It'll all work out. I stopped worrying after two.
post #37 of 37
My daugther is 14 mo and im due any week now!! Im so nervous cause Samantha just started to walk but is at the point where she would rather crawl. Im freaking out! I hope everything will run smoothly
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