Q about circ - Page 2

[KBecks]

You will see your doc at all your visits. Tell your doc that you don't want it done and that if your dh requests it, you are in disagreement.

[KBecks]

Also, don't pester your husband by telling him circ is awful. If anything, tell him that intact is fine, there is nothing wrong w/having a foreskin and your son will be happy and healthy as is.

Try not to beat up your DH b/c that will make him more defensive. I would ignore the topic unless he brings it up.

[jlovesl]

OMG, how on earth is that even possible in a loving marriage. "Oh honey I love you but I don't trust you with the welfare of OUR children." If I band my husband from spending quality alone time with our child I'm sure he would divorce me. Really not good advice for a marriage. It's a serious issue they need to talk about.

[Fyrestorm]

Protecting a child is the most important thing a mother can do...it's more important than stroking a man's ego.

[eepster]

Originally Posted by jlovesl

OMG, how on earth is that even possible in a loving marriage. "Oh honey I love you but I don't trust you with the welfare of OUR children." If I band my husband from spending quality alone time with our child I'm sure he would divorce me. Really not good advice for a marriage. It's a serious issue they need to talk about.

But would you DH ever threaten to take your children to have surgey that he knew you objected to?

While I basically trust my DH with our son, I have said no when he asked to take our DS to his mothers, b/c he has proven incapable of saying no to his abusive mother. While I would like our DS to get to enjoy DH's cultures holidays with DH, DS's safety come first.

[Greg B]

Since it can be argued legally and morally that RIC is wrong (as it has for females) I would also make it clear to your husband that you are willing to take legal action on this issue. ARC may be able to help in this regard with advice:

http://www.arclaw.org/

And you may want to show your DH this:

http://icgi.org/Downloads/FD2.pdf

or this:

http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcisi...yStatement.pdf

Both are authoritative, both have references. The first is short and to the point.

The second is by doctors and very thorough, but lengthy.

Keep in mind that your DH has not given you any justification. He is bullying you, basically saying he is going to ignore your arguments and interests over his own. This at least verges on an abusive relationship.

If he is not willing to research, discuss his feelings and arguments, and come up with a reasoned argument that supports his decision, then he should not be part of the decision making team. If you want to be diplomatic, it presents a case where there is a stalemate and the appropriate decision is the default decision of deferring to your child when he reaches legal age.

Be strong. Your child will thank you.

Regards

[lawmama1984]

Jlovesl, I don't think anyone was suggesting banning her husband from spending quality alone time with the child. The only suggestions were to not allow him to take him anywhere a circumcision could potentially be carried out against her desires.

I agree with PP. Protection of my child is the ultimate concern. That comes over and above anything else.

[jlovesl]

You must not trust him. If his mother is abusive why would you let your kids go there and learn his cultures????My huband would never do anything with out consulting with me 1st. And vice versa. I would think if you absolutly think that he would go behind your back and do a surgery to your son, DIVORCE.... Why would you want your children to be around a father who may take him for surgery and have them near an abusive Grandmother????