Originally Posted by ~D~
I wanted to comment if that's ok. I've been
b/c I really think I have a lot to learn on this for many reasons. But this is what I really wanted to say about the word 'girly'... Chirp, I looked for a definition for this word and this all I came up with:
/ˈgɜrli/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [gur-lee] Show IPA
1.featuring nude or scantily clad young women: a girlie show; girlie magazines.
2.Offensive. a term of address used for a girl or woman.
1940–45; girl + -ie
Based on the Random House Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2009.
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girl·ie also girl·y (gûr'lē)
adj. Often Offensive
1.Featuring minimally clothed or naked women, typically in pornography: girlie magazines.
2.Weak, timid, or effeminate. Used of men.
So if something is deemed 'girly' it literally means offensive and weak?
somehow i'm not surprised.
dictionaries are made by dictionary publishing companies who send out requests for definitions to authors, other publishers, and academics. sometimes they'll ask scientists or experts as the need arises.
those "chosen" few send back their definitions and the publishing companies synthesize them to create 1 defintion, or multiple, if the need arises.
i can't believe of all the people they petitioned for a definition of girly, not one of them took a non-derogatory stance on the word.
although the idea of being scantily clad...i'm wondering if the last people to come up with definitions for girly were in their 50s or 60s (or the last time they petitioned for a definition of girly was in the 50s or 60s) where the context was for "girly magazine."
still can't come up with an appropriate word. and we really shouldn't have to. we can just say, oh my child is interested in butterflies, flowers, trucks, babies, stuffed animals and play kitchens. without adding any emphasis on gender norms.
i'm wondering how you radical mommas have dealt with obvious differences in gender...that you thought wouldn't come up if you didn't foster it. but did anyway.