I love long hair on males! Little boys with long hair is just the cutest thing in the world to me! I generally keep my hair pretty short these days. I'm growing it out, but short hair on mothers makes perfect sense to me. LOL
But what is a nugget girl? What does that mean?
The long hair thing must really depend on where you live. Around here, it's totally normal for males of all ages to have long hair. Other places...not so much. I remember when I shaved my head a few years ago. I guy I was sleeping with basically stopped talking to me, he was so upset. He said, "I liked your hair!" I replied, "It's hair. It'll grow back."
People are just weird with hair. Sorry your son is going through crap because of it. They're probably just jealous. ;)
As far as the topic of the kids being "enough": HECK NO they're not necessarily enough. I think people say that because they have been brainwashed and/or have some childhood pain with regard to their mothers. The mentality of having children somehow fulfilling you on every level (and now you can die in peace since you have grown a human and expunged it through your vaginal cavity!...or otherwise) is so classically sexist, it throws me off every time I encounter it. I am a human being, regardless of birthing status and I don't need to be intercepted by sperm in order to find all the joy and happiness life has to offer. It's possible that I may look further than my uteral and vulvar regions for life satisfaction. Who knew?!
Good luck, Mama Soltera. Maybe start looking into what would make you happier, career-wise, and start taking baby-steps toward it.