Patience support group?

[JamieCatheryn]

Who here wants to chill about the impeding birth and enjoy these last few weeks? Anybody hoping to keep baby in until at least 40w? I think I can make it that far without feeling too done, though some things like cleaning and stuff are getting hard to do. They won't be any easier postpartum and with a new babe so no rush. And I want to go strawberry picking with my family but the first opportunity won't be until I'm just past due. Last time around, DH couldn't get off work to stay with us postpartum until I was due because of training with a new job so we were desperately hoping I didn't go early.

How are you going to stay sane and normal feeling as the last weeks go by? Are you mentally adding to your due date, or ignoring the actual day altogether? Are you making yourself keep doing things even if they get hard? Are you scheduling nice things for yourself you'd have to cancel if baby comes?

[CookAMH]

I'll bite and try to be patient. I have a hair cut and highlights this week, and a pedicure next week with a friend and I am loving being off work and sleeping in till I want every day. I will be less antsy once it cools down after tomorrow (back to 60s and 70s) and I can sleep better at night with the chill. I'm counting down from 4 weeks (when I'll be 42w) to help myself mentally.

[the_lissa]

I'm in. This baby better stay in until the due date.

[PTmorgan]

My official due date is May 5th. I'm telling people "sometime in May" and I suspect somewhere in mid-May. I have no problem with Baby staying in past 40 weeks - it just seems that kids these days are getting evicted earlier and earlier.

After all that self-confident talk.... I've been having some mild contractions the last few evenings. I've had a lot of BH last pregnancy and this one - I just consider them my excercise. I never had crampy contractions with DS until I was in labor, so now I'm wondering if this is just pre-labor like I'm reading with a lot of us in our DDC.

I have a nice outing planned with my MIL next Wednesday - day trip with her and DS (22 months). I need to get my toenails redone, but child care is really scarce. I might end up having to do them myself - one toe at a time, gasping for breath! I'd like to have the family Mother's Day get-together done before Baby shows up.

[Madalyn]

I was doing really good at being patient until we started getting birth announcements daily. I'm due the 19th and my mom isn't able to get here until the 23rd. So I'm actually hoping mine will cook for those few extra days so she can be here for the birth but we'll see.

[triplembride]

Originally Posted by Madalyn

I was doing really good at being patient until we started getting birth announcements daily.

me too!! seeing all the birth announcements has made me very antsy! but i'm going to do my best to hang in there especially since i'm not due till the END of may which could push me in to June i know so.....here's to all of us hanging in there!! and being PATIENT!!!!!

[Overthemoon]

Originally Posted by JamieCatheryn

How are you going to stay sane and normal feeling as the last weeks go by? Are you mentally adding to your due date, or ignoring the actual day altogether? Are you making yourself keep doing things even if they get hard? Are you scheduling nice things for yourself you'd have to cancel if baby comes?

Oh I wish I could join this club. But I'm the gal up through out the night praying through tears that labor will start any minute. I just honestly don't have any more room in this belly and am beyond uncomfortable. The thought of going to my due date is hard, but going past it, oh my word no way.

I have a check up with my MW on tuesday and I want her to do a rough internal, hoping she can get me started with labor. If I was using a regular OB I would be scheduling an induction because I'm so uncomfortable.

[octanebeetle27]

I'm due May 29 and I'm just adding two weeks to my due date and planning life normally until my actual due date and then still making tentative plans for the week after and then less tentative plans for the week after that. We home school and I'm expecting to school up until the Friday before Memorial Day weekend (when we normally would quit for the summer anyway). And I've got a hair cut appt three days before I'm due.

I will say though, with my last pregnancy I did the same thing and then had crappy prodromal labor every night for five nights before "real" labor began and that made things a little more difficult. I was up all night laboring and then slept most of the day. I still did a lot of stuff (packing and house hunting b/c we were moving) but I was so tired and was worried about going into labor sleep deprived that it sort of took the fun out of the last days of my pregnancy.

[AustGirl]

Originally Posted by octanebeetle27

I was so tired and was worried about going into labor sleep deprived that it sort of took the fun out of the last days of my pregnancy.

I'm feeling a bit that way now. I run my own business from home and have two large orders to fill before I can officially go on maternity leave, but that's at least another two weeks' work. I'm due in 3.5 weeks.

I really wanted at least the last 4 weeks before bub arrives to be full of lying on the couch, eating well, drinking lots of water, sleeping whenever I need to.... but so far I'm working every day and feeling completely drained. My body is doing everything it can to tell me to slow down, but I just can't yet

[carla1979]

I wish I could be more patient. Due May 12 here. My dh should be leaving for training on May 15 for 12 weeks. I would really like baby to show up before he leaves, obviously. I've been 10 days early and 1 day late before. Who knows when this one will show. I keep telling dh, don't let them talk me into an induction. Goodness knows the last thing I need is to have a c-section before he leaves. Also, my brother and his family are coming to visit my parents the same day my dh leaves, so my mom is out for then (and they are 3 hours away). She will need to spend time with my bro and family because they live across the country and don't come often. Boo! Come on out baby!

[greenmamapagan]

Oh I need to join this. I'm 36 weeks and not expecting baby till 40 (DD was spot on) but I'm starting to wish I didn't have to wait that long : Intellectually I'd love to be able to just relax and have babe come when it's cooked but really I just want some labour action

[Smithie]

I just completed the 36th week, and I'm finding it hard to be patient BECAUSE I'm not super-uncomfortable yet! It's like, I'm going to have to deal with the demands of a newborn while continuing to take care of the older two, God really needs me to get totally debilitated, dehydrated and sleep-deprived BEFORE he ups my workload?

[major_mama11]

Yeah, I *really* need to join this...

I'm 39 weeks as of yesterday, but I've been telling everyone I've got 3 more weeks to go. I went to 41 weeks with DD, and my mom and grandma also were slow cookers with all their babies, so I'm going to be surprised if I go anytime before 41 weeks. My "official" due date is this Friday, but I'm telling everyone it's May 10th.

I'm trying to keep as busy as I can just to keep my mind off of "when will labor start? Why does everyone go before their due date except me?" Last week we went to the zoo and the park and to my mom's, and this week I'm kinda hoping the baby stays in until I get a chance to plant at least part of my garden, which my SIL was kind enough to till for me yesterday. Today I'm planning to go to my mom's, and go to the store for a major pantry stockup. Anything to keep from feeling sorry for myself like I was last week.

[catters]

Originally Posted by Overthemoon

Oh I wish I could join this club. But I'm the gal up through out the night praying through tears that labor will start any minute. I just honestly don't have any more room in this belly and am beyond uncomfortable. The thought of going to my due date is hard, but going past it, oh my word no way.

I have a check up with my MW on tuesday and I want her to do a rough internal, hoping she can get me started with labor. If I was using a regular OB I would be scheduling an induction because I'm so uncomfortable.

Yeah, I wish I could join the club too, but I am scheduled for a section (I'm VBAC) on the 12th if babe doesn't come earlier, so I am TOTALLY fine with her coming NOW, or anytime soon! I am scheduled to have my membranes stripped next week, so I am HOPING that gets labor to start as I cannot be induced.
Good luck to you patient moms.

For the record, in the meantime, I am too busy with my toddler to focus too much on waiting for labor to start. Although, it feels like someone took a hammer to my pelvis and I'm having lots of mild BH's and menstrual like cramping, I"m not getting my hopes up until the sweep next week.

Good luck you patient moms!

[Ldavis24]

I am trying to be patient, but for some reason DH has decided that DD should be here now. I am a few days shy of 36 weeks she is not ready!! He keeps trying to "stimulate" labor via trying to suck on my boobs whenever I'm not looking (sorry TMI)... I keep trying to tell him, every day she stays in is a good thing and means she will be bigger/healthier but he doesn't listen! He also tries to sneakily rub my feet trying to figure out the pressure point that can stimulate contractions.

I am all for patience, I would love for her to give me a another 5 or 6 weeks so we can actually be ready. I think once 37 weeks rolls around DH is not going to give me a minute to relax about it though.

As far as staying patient, I just think about all the stuff I have yet to do before she comes and that is enough of an incentive for me to get her to stay in until 40 weeks!

[octanebeetle27]

Originally Posted by AustGirl

I really wanted at least the last 4 weeks before bub arrives to be full of lying on the couch, eating well, drinking lots of water, sleeping whenever I need to.... but so far I'm working every day and feeling completely drained. My body is doing everything it can to tell me to slow down, but I just can't yet

If you can get in a couple of days of serious rest before labor starts then I think you'll do just fine. Just keep up the water intake, the good diet, put your feet up as much as you can and try to go to bed on time. I worked (vet tech--always on my feet!) until the two days before my first was born and having just that one day to recharge really helped me! But I know it would be reassuring to go into labor as physically primed as possible. I always feel a little guilty b/c I know I'm not taking quite as good care of myself as I wish I could--the rest part is the big area I'm lacking in too. I hope you go your full 40 weeks so you can have some down time before the baby comes!

[Quate]

At this point I think I'm pretty ok with baby staying put until 40 weeks, but I'm only 36 right now. I'm glad to have some people to hang out with once 80% of our DDC already has theirs, anyway!

[seraphim0517]

Sounds good, I'm 37 weeks. DS was 42 weeks plus. and DD was at least 40 (not sure of the exact date of LMP so she may have been 41). I'm totally fine with going a week or two over and I'm really not anxious or impatient at all. I've scheduled a couple jobs (I paint murals) through 39 weeks, and fun stuff with the kids through 41. If I have to cancel anything no biggie, but if I do have the time I don't want to be just sitting around the house waiting.

[Asher]

Sane? I can try the patience thing, but sane? I don't think I can hop on that boat!

I just looked at my schedule today and realized there is really no good time to have this baby until some time between the 16th-22nd of May. So he needs to wait until then. Until then, we have two little league games per week, per child and I don't want to miss those so bub needs to stay put until then.

(Of course, I am guessing saying this is totally going to make him decide to come out on the busiest week of them all...actually, probably not since that is THIS week. )

[j_p_i]

I'll join! Having been given two due dates 15 days apart has not been easy for me, because I so want to believe the first (earlier) date is my 40 weeks point and go from there. So, here's to being patient!

It is so hard with so many May babies coming already! It just makes me excited