Originally Posted by prothyraia
It irritates me because it contributes to the idea that it's "easy" to save money if you just try, so being in financial trouble is a sign of weakness/poor character.
This, exactly. I do not judge anyone, at all, ever, for not cooking as scratch as what we do. It's not about that.
(I've said it here before, but I SAH, DH helps a ton, and we both love to cook. Oh, and your house? I bet it's cleaner than mine.
If I WAH, or had less help, or didn't outright enjoy it, I'd go ahead and use storebought tortillas and packaged seasoning. My situation is NOT widely applicable.)
It's about the fact that it would be almost stupid for me to go to work, given how little it would net us (again, due just to the particulars of our situation alone), but honestly, getting to the place where I am- spending $350 a month on household goods AND groceries for a family of soon-to-be five... that took some work, man. And some skill. And a desire to learn new things. And investing in things like a freezer and a chest fridge and cloth based cleaning equipment and CDs and mama cloth and so on. It doesn't happen overnight. It isn't especially difficult, but I wouldn't call it easy, either. And it can't be summed up in puff piece. It requires mindfulness, which, let's be honest, most of the people posting on this board probably already have in spades. It annoys me that there's this idea that everyone who is stretched thin is buying designer handbags, fancy coffee, and cigarettes, or that they are paying for past choices in the form of cc debt racked up due to cars, vacations, or plastic surgery. None of that applies to me, or, again, probably most of the people here.
It's just aggravating to be so overlooked by the mainstream media, as if we don't even exist. Or to be labeled as extreme.
When I was working at a bank, this weasely investment dude came in after closing one day, to try to pep talk us into setting up more "meetings" with the investment "counselor". He used the analogy of "The $110,000 Question", and said that's how much money it takes for a couple to eat three meals a day, for ten years, even if their just eating at Wendy's. I remember sitting there thinking, "Right, you've made it to retirement without a kitchen? There's no food on earth cheaper than Wendy's?" It's the same sort of thinking, that the solution is to earn moremoremore, spend moremoremore, invest moremoremore, rather than scale back, slow down, and do a different kind of investing.