I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
We are incredibly fortunate that we live in an area with a fabulous small hospital. They do ask about being up-to-date on vaccinations, if you have an ER visit, but only for their records. They have never pushed a vaccination on any of us (13 years of using this hospital). Very respectful of their patients.
Ds had his only ER visit a few years ago (he was, I think, 6 years old, at the time) after he slipped and impaled himself, in the armpit, on our wrought iron fireplace screen. Ripped a huge flap of skin open with only a drop of blood (it was amazing).
To close it required over 25 stitches. The ER crew did ask about being up-to-date on his vaccinations (routine questions) and I explained we stopped all vaccinations when he was 7 months old, after a life-threatening adverse reaction, while in the doctor's office, to one of the vaccines he received during his well-child check. They said, "Oh, I'd have stopped vaxxing, too!!" That was it.
Of course, dh & I stayed with ds every moment he was there and looked at everything they were doing. But, all was as perfect as it could be and the ER visit (and, all those stitches with sedation) went without a hitch.
Same goes for me, I simply told them (during a need-for-stitches visit related to a fall down the hillside

) I don't vaccinate. No more explaination than that, no reason mentioned. No questioning from them as to why or trying to convince me otherwise.
Oh, and we have never been asked to sign a waiver about our refusal to accept vaccinations in the ER. I would refuse to sign anyway, but it's nice to know we don't have that agenda pushed upon us.
We love our local health care system!
