Hi, I'm a newbie and I'm sorry my first post is all mememe, but I've been a lurker for awhile and am really struggling with my parenting choices. I've been really attracted by the AP lifestyle and since my son was born nearly 4 months ago we've been cosleeping, exclusive BFing, babywearing, cloth diapering, etc etc. It was all perfect, in fact I have no complaints about nighttime sleep at all, until I had to go back to work last month and my son has been really struggling with the transition to daycare. He goes 3.5 days a week. At daycare he wants to be held all the time, and they of course do that as much as they can but have other babies to tend to as well. He also will not sleep for more than 20-30 minutes a few times a day in his crib probably because I often, but not always, had him in a wrap or sling for naps. Then he ends up super cranky and needy in the evenings when he's with me. Last night he was so overtired that he was screaming for nearly an hour until I managed to soothe him to sleep, and he even refused to nurse to sleep (normally nursing puts him right out but I guess he wasn't hungry or was too upset). My DH wants to let him CIO for naps but he's not even 4 months yet and I'm really reluctant to do that because I don't think he has the temperament for it. Even our DCP said she thought he just wasn't a self-soother and really needed someone to rock him to sleep. He gets incredibly angry when something is wrong (like cries until he turns blue) and you don't fix it for him. But he's just not sleeping! I'm sorry if this is incoherent but I'm struggling to hold back tears while pumping at work. Are all those people who say you need to put your baby in a crib awake and let him soothe himself right? Is there any way to fix this? Perhaps this is why AP is a lifestyle typically associated with SAHMing.
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4/28/09 at 11:48am