Both my sister and sister-in-law homeschool...and I'm always following these threads to keep up with the news and peoples' experience on the subject.
I found this thread really disappointing in the respect that some posters found the comment "I don't have the patience" as some sort of "excuse" not to homeschool. What bothers me more than "I don't have the patience" is the term "excuse."
I went back and looked up the term "excuse" and found that it is a sort of apology...something to be forgiven for...like one is making amends for doing something wrong or for not doing the thing excused for.
I guess I'm confused because I don't have any guilt or "excuses" for the educational choices that DH and I have made for DD. DD goes to a private school and she is thriving and we feel good about that choice. If someone tells me they don't have the patience or means to do certain things, I take it at face value. If their feelings or passions or level of tolerance are different from mine, so what?
My sister is doing a great job at homeschooling and honestly, I admire her for it and I think she is really good at it. I just don't think I would WANT to do it or that I would be GOOD at it. If that makes me a bad parent, then so be it. It doesn't mean that I have accepted a lessor role in my child's life. It doesn't mean that my child is not my priority or that I am lazy about my child's education. I don't feel the need to try certain things to know that I wouldn't be good at it or like it. There are certain things that I am passionate about (like running, law, certain dietary choices, contemporary art, music, montessori education for my DD), but I know there are people out there who lack the interest or passion that I do about those things. I accept that and hope that I have positively influenced their views about me through my communication with them about these things. I don't feel that they are making excuses for not being like me or doing the the things that I feel are best for my child.
I guess what I'm really trying to say is that if you feel secure in your own choices, the passing comments of others (whether good intentioned or not) will fall by the wayside and have little effect on the pursuit of your own passions for yourself and your family.