I'm just saying that if/when I've heard people say that comment I don't read into it to be a bad thing, but try to give the benefit of the doubt and take it as an opportunity to be positive about homeschooling. You know...open up the lines of communication and all that....
CUz then the conversation could actually turn out to be quite nice.
I find it sad that in a conversation where so many thoughtful mamas, both homeschooling and not, have weighed in, some people are still coming out with, "Yep, they're just making excuses when they say they don't have the patience."
Back on the first page of this discussion, a few HSing mothers contended that personally, they didn't have the patience to send their kids to school. That "regular" school was by far the more difficult proposition.
Now, I send my kids to PS. But was I offended by those statements? No, I was not. I was intrigued, fascinated, curious.
It didn't occur to me for a minute to think to myself - much less say - Oh, those homeschooling mothers just don't want to send their kids to school. But they don't want to think about why, so they're just tossing out the "patience" thing as an excuse
Instead, I took their statements at face value. Why on earth wouldn't I? And I asked them to explain what they meant. I was genuinely curious about how sending kids to school - so easy to me - could be seen as difficult and something they didn't have the patience for.
Jenelle, kathymuggle and zeldamomma weighed in on my question. I learned about their night owl kids who would be exhausted in the mornings, making getting ready to leave the house incredibly stressful. I read about being worried about kids in difficult situations in bad schools. I put myself in the place of someone struggling to get out the door with two younger kids and of trying afternoons, attempting to get a stressed-out, hungry child to do homework. And about how very much easier and calm their lives were once all that stopped and homeschooling started.
After reading that, I totally understood why a person would say that sending their particular kids to school required more patience than homeschooling. (And I appreciate that those mamas took the time to help me understand.)
So, like karina5 said, a comment like "I don't have the patience to homeschool" really need not be taken as a slam against homeschooling or an excuse, but more as an opportunity to get to know another mama and what makes her world tick.