zinemama, I can share my experience with you, just to give you an example.
Let me first say that my school-aged child has consistently had "focus" issues since starting school. I won't call it ADD, and none of his teachers will either. His grades are all A's, and always have been. But we all have to stay. on. him. He daydreams. He dawdles. He is a deep thinker. Honestly, I believe he is bored out of his mind half the time, with the "busywork". But he also is just VERY easily distracted.
So, for the last 3 years of public school, it has been: Get up by alarm, in the dark, at 6:30 am. We settled on this time after many, many stressful mornings of having to rush rush rush and/or missing the bus a few times. Here is what he has heard: "Hurry up in the bath, no time to play, eat your food, no TV on school mornings, okay go brush your teeth", and (if he needs to use the toilet which is about half the mornings) "are you done? honey, you need to wipe and wash hands as SOON as you are finished, because the bus is coming!"
I also have two other younger children, so picture them getting up in the middle of all this, needing to nurse when they were younger, needing diapers changed, needing breakfast, whining, distracting my oldest...
Oh yeah, and picture that I have no help on these school mornings. Ever.
By the time I get him on the bus, I am still busy with the other two all day -- and at the same time, tied down to the school schedule because whatever errands/shopping/whatever I need to do that day, I HAVE to be back home by a certain time to catch the bus, OR I have to drive out to the school and get him, which involves unstrapping two children from their car seats and hauling them in the building (one or both of whom are ASLEEP), finding my child and signing him out, then strapping three children into their car seats.
By this point in the afternoon, I am EXHAUSTED. Mentally. Drained.
But, there is no time to go home and relax. School child needs a snack -- he is starving, you see, because at school he only eats lunch and that has been hours ago! But we don't just do junk snacks, he needs something healthy. So I'm not just handing this child a pop tart. After snack, he wants to play and unwind and instead, I have to insist that he does his homework, which is sometimes A LOT and you know, it takes him awhile to do it, in any case.
Picture my other two running around tearing up the house and hurting each other by this point, and in the middle of me trying to help with homework / get this healthy snack.
When the homework is finally finished, it is generally time to start thinking about and working on supper. School child goes off to play with his brothers in the other room, while I am in the kitchen making supper. He is now ready to let out all of this pent-up energy, because he has only had 15-20 minutes of recess, you know -- oh, and he is MISSING recess half the time because he is slower at doing his work and has to stay in and catch up his work before he can go out. So, oldest brother now has two younger brothers completely wound up, wrestling, jumping off furniture, etc. while I am in the kitchen TRYING to come up with supper.
We finally eat. They are ready to play some more, but -- NOPE. Sorry! It's off to bed so we can get up at 6:30 and do it all again!
Oh yeah, did I mention that most evenings I have no help either?
So you may be reading this and thinking, how is this woman going to homeschool? Well, I will. I will once again have control over our days and our time, instead of being a slave to the public school schedule. And my son will be a much happier, more calm child, when he has been freed of all this pressure and time constraints also.