I feel kind of bad. My 3 1/2 yr old DS was formula fed (I wanted to BF but like many new mums had no support or correct information), pushed around in a buggy, Cried it out (even though I hated it, I was told it was what you were supposed to do in order to not make a 'rod for your back'), slept in his own room in a cot from 6 weeks old, and always wore disposable nappies.
My DD is nearly 9 months, EXB for 6 months and we are continuing to feed until she is ready to stop (I had help and support from a BFC this time!), Cloth nappies (except not right now while I'm trying to find a good next size up, and second hand), bed shared (for the times we needed it but is a light sleeper and does sleep better on her own now). she has been pushed in a pushchair for most of her life but hates it! I have a hip seat which just clips round my waist (hippychic) and its ok for a while but starts to dig in to my hips with her weight after a while... I always have to end up putting her back into her pushchair which we both hate doing.
It has only just clicked that she is much happier at my level, hugging into me and when on the hip seat is so content! She screams in her pushchair so I finally bought a sling. I have already got one (a TricotSlen) but hardly used it because I found it difficult with all that material. So I finally bought a ring sling (Zolowear) I'm looking forward to my DD being a happier, contented, less whiney baby as she is on the hip seat. I just needed something to spread the weight and leave me hands free.
I only wish I would have realised sooner how valuable a sling would be. I'm sure I will stop using the pushchair, because even when we do take it out, she always ends up out of it and in my arms.
I also feel bad that my DS never got to benefit the way I parent DD. I guess he is now, I won't ever let him CIO anymore, we talk and I comfort.
I can't help feeling guilty though.
My DD is nearly 9 months, EXB for 6 months and we are continuing to feed until she is ready to stop (I had help and support from a BFC this time!), Cloth nappies (except not right now while I'm trying to find a good next size up, and second hand), bed shared (for the times we needed it but is a light sleeper and does sleep better on her own now). she has been pushed in a pushchair for most of her life but hates it! I have a hip seat which just clips round my waist (hippychic) and its ok for a while but starts to dig in to my hips with her weight after a while... I always have to end up putting her back into her pushchair which we both hate doing.
It has only just clicked that she is much happier at my level, hugging into me and when on the hip seat is so content! She screams in her pushchair so I finally bought a sling. I have already got one (a TricotSlen) but hardly used it because I found it difficult with all that material. So I finally bought a ring sling (Zolowear) I'm looking forward to my DD being a happier, contented, less whiney baby as she is on the hip seat. I just needed something to spread the weight and leave me hands free.
I only wish I would have realised sooner how valuable a sling would be. I'm sure I will stop using the pushchair, because even when we do take it out, she always ends up out of it and in my arms.
I also feel bad that my DS never got to benefit the way I parent DD. I guess he is now, I won't ever let him CIO anymore, we talk and I comfort.
I can't help feeling guilty though.
