When are you telling family & friends?

[geo_girl]

Hi there,

we are almost 5 weeks pregnant, and it is finally starting to sink in.

There are some health concerns with this pregnancy, and I'm not sure when we will tell people.

Have you told yet? When will you?

cheers,
charlene

[acordio]

For now we have only told a couple of friends but no family yet. I will probably tell some of my cousins that I am really close with later next week. I think we are leaving the parents for Mother's Day. I might see if I can find a "Big Brother" T-shirt for the youngest to wear when we go visit family or I will just write some message in the cards. As soon as they know EVERYONE in the family will know. Dh wants to wait until I am really showing but I don't think I can wait that long :P

[BlessedNotStressed]

[geekgolightly]

I don't want to say anything for the first 20 weeks. I lost a baby at 17 weeks and would rather avoid having to talk to everyone about another loss, if that were to happen. I want this to be a secret between my husband, my son, and me until then. I didn't even want to tell my doc! But I have to so that i can get progesterone supplements.

[gemgal053080]

Im so bad I already told my mom (because we are planning a wedding...and she is coming down to go dress shopping with me) could you image me not telling her and me telling the lady at the bridal shoppe whose helping me with the dress...lol...I think she would shoot me right then and there...but as for everyone else I have a doctors appointment with my MW friday so after we do some blood work and everything is ok we'll probley tell everyone on Mother's day too.

[Keeta]

I've told my parents and a couple of close friends - people I would share this kind of news with, good or bad. We won't tell the rest of the family until the second trimester.

[Bubblette]

This has been a topic of debate since we found out! We've told two close friends, because I just couldn't NOT talk to somone other than DH. He's wonderful but I really wanted some female input. We decided yesterday to tell our immediate families on Saturday - and ask them not to broadcast the news until we're further along and we know everything is going well.

We'll tell the rest of the family around 9-10 weeks. DH would love to leave if until 12 weeks, or better yet till we fly in to visit, but my sister is getting married in July and this will be BIG news, so I really want to let the excitement settle down before her wedding.

[ratrodgrl]

ditto, Keeta, I've told people who would be there to support me either way. It felt crazy telling them so soon, but that's what I did with DS and my last pregnancy; this time I'm having DH hold off on telling people he's buddies with but that aren't personal friends of mine. I love the Mother's Day idea! oh well, we already told grandma

[carmen358]

Having had 2 m/c last year, DP and I are also reluctant to tell anyone. However, I did tell a couple of friends. We will wait to tell family and more friends until the 2nd trimester...if I can hold it in that long!!

[Vespertina]

Mom, dad, stepmom, in-laws, cousin, midwife I used with DS, online friends, and SIL. The in-laws told the grandparents.

[JayJay]

Ummm well, I had to show my colleague the PT in case I was going nuts. So then I told my other colleague, then I called my mother, then my lovely midwife who is my friend as well, my other colleague in a different state, my friend in town, my other colleague..*takes a deep breath*

Then I felt the need to call my mother back since I had only been able to get her voicemail. After that I called Harry because he was home from work and told him...hehe.

So yah. But I figure, I didn't think I even worked any more, so when I saw those two lines I thought "heck, I'd better tell everyone in case they disappear!"

But stic, baby Goob, stick. Devin is calling the bean "Goob" until we know the sex

*HUGE hugs* XXX

[geekgolightly]

jayjay! I know you don't know me because I hardly posted in the ttc after a loss forum, but it is really good to see you here. You definitely inspired me to be open to hope instead of wallowing, which is my tendency. And congrats!

[marinak1977]

I think I'm holding out on announcing it to everyone for a little whil (at least until I'm a month in) But I did tell my parents and a few friends. I lost my first bean at 5 weeks, and this time I'm celebrating every moment of this pregnancy, so I might as well share. ::::

[petit_bleuet]

I was a blabbing fool as soon as I found out! I told my two childood BFFs, my closest adult friend, and my mom the day I found out. DH told his parents the same day (despite having just had dental work done and slurring his way through the conversation). The next day I broadcasted it on Facebook so most of my extended network found out.

I got my BFP on spring break, when I went back to work Monday I told a coworker who knew we were hoping and trying, but she's the only person who knows at work.

I haven't told my dad because he's a negative jerk. I don't know when I'll tell him.

The person I want to tell most, though, is DS. He's going to be thrilled! He was asking me just the day before my BFP if he'd ever be a big brother. I'm waiting 'til late June, just in case... DH and I would be very upset if something happened to this baby, but I know we'd ultimately understand and recover (I had a m/c in '03, I know this for a fact with me, I was surprisingly peaceful). DS, however, would probably carry that with him for the rest of his life, he's a very sensitive soul.

And I'll probably broadcast it at the end of the school year (late June), though I anticipate people (especially students!) will be guessing by then if my snug pants are indicative!

[Kidzaplenty]

I have no intentions of letting this cat out of the bag for months! I would love to get to 20 wks before telling, but will probably give in after 12 wks for my children.

I am still too uncertain to even think about telling (not about wanting it but about it being a sticky baby. We lost one at 18 wks in '06 and one at 6 wks in Jan, and there is not much worse than "taking back" the announcement-well, other than the actual loss.). So, only DH and I know.

[Lizbiz]

Oh not sure yet - just found out today... so we'll see! I think I'll tell my sister in law pretty quickly - we are close and she is the only one who knew we were trying.

We may wait until I'm about 10-12 weeks until we tell - partly because we're heading home to the US for a long visit in mid-June and it would be really fun to surprise everyone when were together in person.

[MrsAngelic]

Not for as long as possible to any immediate family, Inlaws started making not so nice comments with the 3rd so this being the 5th and now living 15 minutes away (used to be 5 states away), no way! My dad is usually good about it, but for some reason each time my mom says my name and sighs like she's really disappointed in me and asks if maybe it was a bad test. Every time. Even from the announcement of our first, even though I had been a married woman for 9 months prior. So weird. Don't get along with my mom in general.

I have gone six months without making an announcement before so we'll see how it goes.

[geekgolightly]

Mrs Angelic (and anyone who has to deal with that) I am so sorry your family isn't supportive. It doesn't make any sense to me. I mean they are grandparents and aunts and uncles, all they have to do is play with babies and hand them over to mom and dad when there is a poopy diaper. In any case, I am happy for you. :::: I don't have the patience for a big family, otherwise I would. My ideal self would have lots of babies.

[welldone]

we haven't decided. our children took our last loss pretty hard, so i'm concerned about telling them and having another loss and breaking their hearts. then again, they are perceptive, and i'm pretty sure they'll pick up on things soon. i don't want to lie.

i think i'd rather have the support and prayers of friends than go through it alone and in secret, but i'm nervous. so i'm keeping my mouth shut until we can figure out what to do.

[jamie79]

I have told my husband, of course, my personal trainer (since they gotta know why I am taking it a little easy at the gym), and 1 friend. That is IT! I am not telling anyone else until at least 12 weeks, but would like to wait longer. I am so afraid of a loss. Plus, my In-Laws and I have an odd relationship, so....

I am excited to tell people simply because that means I will have gotten to a place in my pregnancy where I am feeling more secure in it (as in further along)