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post #21 of 28
I recommend you discuss this situation with the teacher. I've been to many Music Together classes, and they ALL have a rule about no running. They let kids be kids in lots of ways, but the no running rule is a safety issue, and the teacher should address that with all the parents in general and (sounds like) with this particular parent specifically. Sorry your little one got hurt.
post #22 of 28
I'm so sorry your daughter was hurt like that

and no, the other mother did not handle the situation well. Ignoring your daughter like that, when it was her own little one who caused the 'incident', was not demonstrating compassion, empathy or respect. She is showing her child that he doesn't need to help others and that physical force is OK (no appologies necessary..).

In fact, the more I think about it, the more this saddens me. It would be nice if we could all expect positive parenting but unfortunetely I'm usually quite surprised when I see it

(you did awesome though! your daughter needed you and you were right there for her. I'm sure the whole experience taught her a lil something about how dependable/loving you are )
post #23 of 28
No, I don't think she handled that at all. I probably wouldn't have come right over, especially if your daughter was bleeding and crying inconsolably. Generally I think most people just get in the way when you're trying to help a truly injured child. I would have talked to my kid while all that was going on and once the hurt child was calm and sitting in your lap I definitely would have made a point to come over and apologize and encouraged my child to do so too.
post #24 of 28
did she see what happened? pretty disconnected if you ask me if she saw what happened then said your child was tired. Perhaps she is suffering from depression... I mean who knows she could have some kind of disorder that makes her socially inept (I suspect along with my sensory issues I mayu have aspergers - unfortunately often when someone is like that they can be seen as rude when they are truly incapable of appropriate social skills, and need social skills classes to improve in that area but don't realize that is what is going on because it was never diagnosed as a child and so now they are just seen as "rude")
post #25 of 28
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Originally Posted by Super Glue Mommy View Post
-unfortunately often when someone is like that they can be seen as rude when they are truly incapable of appropriate social skills, and need social skills classes to improve in that area but don't realize that is what is going on because it was never diagnosed as a child and so now they are just seen as "rude")
That is an excellent point, I know a few people like this. Once you get to know them, you see the problem. Of course, it's hard to get to know them. OP, have you ever seen the other mom interact appropriately with anyone? Other parent or children in the class?
post #26 of 28
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Originally Posted by snoopy5386 View Post
It wasn't piano lessons, it was a music together class...
Sorry, I read your post too fast.
post #27 of 28
Agree w/ everyone else! I'd be livid. Seriously, I'd be talking to the teacher and if guidelines weren't set down by the next class, I'd ask for a refund. You obviously can't depend on the mother stepping in. But I can't believe she saw it, how could she and not at least show some sympathy? Really, this is a teacher issue IMHO. I have an active boy and we've taken lots of active classes and we've never had a class where everyone was allowed to run rampant. I think the mom was totally wrong, but it's really the teacher who is allowing such a situation to happen.
post #28 of 28
How rude indeed. My son loved to run around in his music class like that, and if he had accidentally hurt somebody, I would have felt terrible. Of course he's just a kid and didn't mean to, but she definitely should have taken some responsibility and asked if your DD was ok, offered to help get a towel to clean her up, and talk to her son about what happened and how to avoid hurting anyone, maybe involve him in doing something to help her feel better, etc. Accidents happen, but I think it's our job to model for our children how to make things "right" and show compassion when someone is hurt.

It sounds like you handled it well. I doubt that saying something to her would have made much of a difference, unfortunately. Hopefully the teacher was aware of what was happening & can talk to the mom if her kids require more supervision during class.
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