KS - does it help to think that conception doesn't actually occur at the insemination?
I mean, she could go with you and then leave, but you might not actually conceive for a few hours!
My point is that even if she were there for the insemination, it wouldn't mean she was there for the conception.
It's even WORSE if you were getting pregnant at home with fresh sperm (you'd like to think all those straight couples are having magical simultaneous orgasms and conceiving, but the reality is that they can have sex and the sperm and be all romantic and actually conceive in the middle of a huge fight four days later).
I'm just sayin'.
Astropeep- wow all kinds of things going on there! Hope the best decisions make themselves clear.