Originally Posted by BeantownBaby9
Its a medical disservice to get pg when your body isn't ready for it yet, and "ready" may be very different for each woman. I know, for us, having recently found allergies, midline defects, etc in both me and my son, and I ate pretty good during my pregnancy, that he is the unfortunate victim of generational nutrient deficiencies, and likely, my leaky gut. So until he weans himself, is STTN in his own bed (something he will have to ask for) AND I am on the road to healing, and able to get the best of TF with raw milk and butter, I don't want to be pg. Just not fair in my eyes to bring a LO into the world who may be even worse off that my first
The thing is, there are no guarantees with this approach. What if you wait longer, and still have a child with allergies, birth defects, autism, or whatever? I'm not saying this to sound threatening, but it's necessary to be prepared for that possibility.
For one thing, our bodies have to deal with environmental toxins that were unheard of in the 1920's. For another, the societies WAP studied had been practicing good nutrition for generations. Since our eggs were made while we were still in our mother's wombs, there's some truth to the notion that "you are what your grandmother ate," and your children are what your mother ate. Not to mention that it takes two people to make a baby. I don't know about the rest of you, but my husband doesn't necessarily eat the healthiest foods when he's out of the house, which sometimes is 2 out of 3 meals.
My third-born was conceived after her older brother had been weaned for several months. I was eating very well, including superfoods. My #1 priority was to rebuild my nutrient stores to an optimal level, so this baby wouldn't have the (relatively) minor problems that affected my other children. Still, I wasn't sure if it was a good time to conceive, particularly because DH's health wasn't the greatest. We were hemming and hawing about this, when suddenly the test came up positive.
A month in, I had some warning signs of early m/c. I knew that this was often nature's way of dealing with serious congenital disorders, but I prayed that the baby would survive anyway, drank lots of water, and went to bed for the weekend. In a primitive society, I wouldn't have had the option to rest -- nor would I even have known I was pregnant yet -- so there's a strong chance that she would have died right then. Instead, she was born very tiny, and has some structural birth defects, but she's incredibly healthy, smart, and good-natured. Apart from whatever went wrong in the very beginning, she's the image of a WAPF poster child. The geneticists haven't figured out what to make of her, but to me, she fits the profile of something called "trisomic rescue," which is when the pregnancy starts out with an extra chromosome, but somehow it fixes itself and the baby ends up being chromosomally normal.
After she was born, I felt alienated from the whole "WAPF/TF movement" for a long time, as there seems to be no room for children like mine in their philosophy. Weston Price himself refers to children with birth defects as "monsters." But I always wanted my daughter, and her problems aren't the end of the world. And she's been an incredible gift to our family in so many ways. Even if she had a full-blown chromosome disorder, I still wouldn't consider myself a failure for having given birth to her. Maybe part of this is due to my spiritual perspective. I think everyone is put on this earth for a greater purpose, and our role as parents is to do our best to facilitate that role for them.
While the hunter-gatherers might have had a more "natural" diet, I'd stop short of adopting their worldview. Just as we don't kill our children for being born at an inconvenient time, neither do we need to require (of them, or of ourselves) that they be perfect. Human perfection is a very broad concept, and something that's unattainable for most of us in this life... and diet and health aren't really that big a part of it.