Originally Posted by newcastlemama
I think that development of a person's heart and soul into a loving and compassionate human being is much more important than having a perfect face.
I know I am defensive about it, but there is such a strong implication with so much of the kind of TF writing we're talking about here that if there's anything "wrong" with a child it's a result of the parents' ignorance or failure. It turns a lot of people off, like Jen said it sometimes smacks of eugenics to me (only approved people doing approved things should reproduce), even if that's not the real intention behind it, and I think a larger measure of compassionate language would go a long way towards neutralizing the kind of defensiveness it can trigger. I do think it's possible to focus on re-educating a population about the importance of real nutrition to human health and the prevention of unnecessary suffering, while at the same time not discounting other factors that cause people to have physical issues (it's not all
about the food) and acknowledging that a "perfect" diet and "perfect" child spacing are not the be-all and end-all of health.
Some TF leader types don't seem to want to acknowledge that even when parents do everything they recommend, it doesn't always result in children who never have any problems ever, and there seems to be a tendency to fall back on the idea that surely
the parents did something "wrong" at some point.
Certainly we should apply our knowledge and strive to do the very best we can for the health and well-being of our kids, and be open to learning, but it is so easy to fall into the guilt-and-blame scene when the emphasis in much of the TF writing is on how beautiful and perfect they think your children will be if you only do exactly what they say.