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I just roller bladed! It was kind of like being a 9 year old again, but with a deeper understanding of momentum and pain! I realized, as I was going down the gentle slope outside my house that I didn't actually know how to stop! D'OH! Anyway, nothing untowards happened, and I sort of figured it out, but it was an adventure. I took the dog with me, and we did about 3.5 miles. The dog had a great time, and is passed out now!
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Originally Posted by Plady View Post
So mamas, how do you deal with scheduling long runs? How do you do childcare? My dh just told me that my long runs on Saturday mornings are just not working out for him and the kids and that it ruins the whole day for everyone so I should change it to, say, Tuesday afternoon.
I hope I am but I doubt I am the only one here who has a spouse that is not on board with marathon training. How do you navigate it? I really thought we'd had our moment and gotten past it and it was okay and then he tells me this so, now what? Or is this just my dh? I know marathon training takes up a lot of time but am I being so selfish? I was out by 6:30 this morning to cut down on the awake time he'd have with the kids.
I don't know. I'm just totally disappointed and angry and sad.
See, your dh is being manipulative here. IMO. It can't possibly ruin everyone's whole day because he has to care for his own kids for a couple of hours. So maybe he hates it, maybe the kids would prefer something else, maybe whatever, but he's exaggerating the situation to make you feel bad.

I'd ask if he has any constructive suggestions to make, and bring up the possibility of a time swap - if he has the kids alone for X hours on Saturday, you'll return the favor on Sunday, or some other specified time, reliably.

My spouse would prefer that I sacrifice every last ounce of myself and every shred of energy I have to kids, work, housework, laundry, etc. etc. so that he has more time to sit on his a** and watch TV. (Wish I was kidding. He was raised by a long line of women martyrs.) But, hmm, not working for me. I decided a couple of years ago that if I didn't make my time a priority for me, no one else was going to. So I *do* feel entitled to my time, and I am pretty rigid about it, but totally supportive of dh taking *his* time, as well.

Hth.
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Originally Posted by Penelope View Post
See, your dh is being manipulative here. IMO. It can't possibly ruin everyone's whole day because he has to care for his own kids for a couple of hours. So maybe he hates it, maybe the kids would prefer something else, maybe whatever, but he's exaggerating the situation to make you feel bad.

I'd ask if he has any constructive suggestions to make, and bring up the possibility of a time swap - if he has the kids alone for X hours on Saturday, you'll return the favor on Sunday, or some other specified time, reliably.

My spouse would prefer that I sacrifice every last ounce of myself and every shred of energy I have to kids, work, housework, laundry, etc. etc. so that he has more time to sit on his a** and watch TV. (Wish I was kidding. He was raised by a long line of women martyrs.) But, hmm, not working for me. I decided a couple of years ago that if I didn't make my time a priority for me, no one else was going to. So I *do* feel entitled to my time, and I am pretty rigid about it, but totally supportive of dh taking *his* time, as well.

Hth.
Amen, sister. Not that my DH is like that (thank goodness), but I agree. Good luck figuring it out, Plady. And truly, how long was he really alone with them if you got up at 6:30?? That is heroic in itself, if you ask me.

Did 3.34 with the $%^*&*&^ dog today. She needs more movement, but DH really seems to never take her out. :

Then got back and took the kids biking. (they biked, I went along.) DD2 needs to build her confidence, but we haven't gotten much time to devote to it. We are going camping this weekend with a whole gaggle of kids (and their parents ) and I think a number of them will have bikes along. Maybe that will help.

Ok, really needing to get in the shower now.
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Well I did get 5 nice miles in. I wanted to do 6.5, but dh got another call from the hospital and called me in the middle of my run to come home. Ah, well.

But it was really perfect running weather. High 50's and breezy, not too sunny but not raining either.

Okay, question: due to a variety of issues, my doc prescribed a new BCP for me (Lavorna). I am supposed to start on the first day of AF. Is the first day the first day of staining? Or real bleeding? (sorry for the tmi).

Will this make me gain weight? Feel sluggish and yuck? I am very nervous about this.
post #565 of 886
towson is running cleveland marathon today!!

go towsonmama!

ETA: she finished already 4:18:59 - way to go!!
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not your average elite men's start line...

bay to breakers was today.
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Woo Hoo! Way to go Towsonmama! : You ROCK!
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Poppy-that race looks like a blast! I want to do it next year! That race sure could use a pack of Dingos.
Did you see the picture of Deena Kastor at the finish? It looks like she's wearing an eye patch. I wonder what happened?
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Way to go, towsonmama! Can't wait for at race report .

Plady, I agree with Penelope. Your DH isn't being fair. John gripes occasionally when I have long runs, but when I remind him that he leaves the house 2-3x a week for soccer and works out after work for an hour a couple more times a week, he manages to change his tune. Plus, those "pictures" I let him take on occasion.... .

I did my first brick of the year today. Fourteen windy miles on the bike, followed by a 3 mile run. I didn't eat enough beforehand though, so I felt pretty sluggish by the end.
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: for towsonmama! :
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I was wondering the same thing about the eye patch on Deena?


Twosonmama! whoo hooo! awesome time, can't wait to hear about the race!!


RR: lifted weights today, will run tomorrow. Trying to decide what plan to do for what.

DH got some major kudos as well as ds1 (9yo). We had moved my TM into the garage (to make more room in our small family room) and I was staring at the wall (which is how I have been running for a while now). Totally on his own, DH comes up with the idea for he and ds1 to build a shelf to put a 19" tv right in front of the TM, hooked up to a vcr. I used to record my soap opera to watch while running, now I can again. (back when I had the other tv, it was maybe a 6" one. He also hooked up a fan to the wall in front of me to cool me down while running.
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How cool! You should make him available for lessons in how to be a supportive Runningdaddy.
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bec - be careful on those blades! My left hip is totally jacked up and completely numb to the touch from a bad fall I took as an adult.

towson - WTG!! Can't wait for your RR!

plady - just a big to everything Penelope said. It's all so spot on.

RM - what a sweet setup for your TM. Mine stares at the wall w/ no ventilation too, but that would make it so much more appealing.

We're camping all week with my favoritest AP moms that I know IRL. I'm so looking forward to it. It's what I would imagine it to be like to camp with the dingos. It's like having 5 of me around to comfort kiddos, keep a watchful eye out, and just understand where I'm coming from. It's awesome.

RR: 20.15 miles! I still can't believe I can run that far. It's almost surreal. The last two miles sucked big-time. My Garmin gave me the low battery beep at mile 6 and I freaked out, seriously considered stopping altogether. I finally decided that there was no way I was getting up so early 2 days in a row, so I'd just have to deal with it. Would you believe...she kept on ticking for the entire run! Phew.

Also, I ran past a molted snakeskin and I really wanted to bring it for my collection (it would have went very nicely with the spinal column I found awhile back, dont'cha think?). Alas, it was way early in the run and my pockets were still full of my provisions. Briefly considered wearing it around my neck like a scarf, but that just seemed too sweaty and gross. Ok...re-reading this I sound like a total weirdo - I'm not that weird, I swear, I didn't even consider bringing the roadkill bunnies!
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: Towsonmama! Wow! Great job! I can't wait to read your report!

RM - That's so sweet! What a good guy!

Penelope - Yeah, it sure felt like bullying. I know he was also upset because we had tried to go out for an afternoon boat ride but once we had the boat in the water and had just pushed off from the dock the engine refused to slip into any gear and we had to putt back in on the little outboard and haul it out, so it was a lot of work for nothing. And both girls were tired and cranky so there was a lot of crying but not related to me running. I *think* that was what he apologized for but I was too tired to mix up another batch of whupass when he said it to demand clarification. Anyway, today I got him to go for a 6 mile run which seems to have cooled his jets in general and on Wednesday he is leaving for a week to visit his mom in St Louis so by the time he's around for another of my long runs hopefully he'll have a fresh attitude.
Anyway, I'm just so thankful to have the dingos to sound off to, otherwise I might have thought that he had a reasonable complaint!
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YAY for towsonmama!!!! :

I'm home and I'm exhausted. DS is sooooo tired, but is currently sitting at the table NOT eating mac n' cheese (although he already had a full bowl), singing and refusing to get down because he's "not done eating." He passed out cold in the car about 30 seconds out of the long term parking lot. I think he's getting a bath and going to bed semi-early tonight!

SIL asked me this morning when STBX was flying out and I kind of led her to believe that he flew out last night. : I told her that he "left" yesterday, which is true after all. : He had offered to take us to the airport, but I really didn't want to go in his girlfriend's rental car. Luckily SIL and her new husband were happy to drop us off before heading out of town themselves.

Now it's back to reality. Sigh. I need to get a bunch of stuff done this week, not the least of which is talking to an admissions counselor at the community college about the classes I will need to take and finding out if I can get some leeway with the professors since I've already taken them. You're supposed to have anatomy and physiology I as a pre-requisite for taking a&p II, but I'd like to take them at the same time. I also need to figure out whether it's worth it to stress myself out this summer with taking all the classes I need (either three or four total) in order to be eligible for priority admissions in August. According to the admissions counselor, if you have all your pre-reqs, you can apply in August and they admit a select few out of that batch and notify them in November. Otherwise you have to apply in November for notification in March. I think I would have a pretty good shot at getting in for August, but that could just be me having a high opinion of myself. And it would be nice KNOWING in November rather than having to wait until March, kwim?

Anyway...I need to have a lot of things figured out and some concrete numbers before we go back to mediation on Thursday, yippee. Also need to go grocery shopping, go to Costco, clean the patio furniture, buy flowers and seedlings for the balcony garden and plant them, make up for all the workouts I didn't do last week (and all the food I ate), etc etc etc...
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Towsonmama you DID rock it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am dying for a race report!!!!!!!!!

hey Gaye, glad you're back safe but sorry that STBX continues to be like that. Yuck.

Plady, I think it helps to know exactly what is bothering your dh about the long runs. If it's something like he's not getting recreation time maybe you could negotiate that...I think someone else said, "one long run for a few hours of whatever manly thing." It also helps my dh to know exactly what is expected, like that you're only going to do X more long runs and can you map them out on the calendar. Can you tell we really had to get down to it in my house????? anyway, I hope it resolves, that stinks.

So, I did the 10K. I knew I wasn't feeling it, but I got up and "jogged" to the start with RP, who has never "jogged" a day in her life (she has one speed, and it is fast). Had a conversation pre-race with RP and her friend who I have run with before, about how I wasn't in race shape and just wanted to do the distance. yeah yeah they agreed, ha ha. So about halfway through they started to pull ahead and I just let them...I was sticking to my happy 10:30 pace and that's exactly how I finished. With the jog home I ended up running about 9 miles, and felt pretty good after. I was sort of annoyed, but I knew it was going to happen, so just let it go.

no run today, but tomorrow a.m. it is supposed to be BRRRR here, in the 40s! So RP and I will do 4.5 or so, I think.

HBM I am trying to take you for some shopping therapy......let's go soon, after the crazy is over for a bit!
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towsonmama - Yay! That's one fast marathon time!

cornflakegirl - Good for you getting that 20 miler in! And yes, I think you're a weirdo about the snakeskin. Maybe you could go back and get it in the car, though? Definitely an interesting addition to a running log!

Plady - Planning for those long runs is the reason I won't be running another full mary anytime soon. My dh doesn't get too grouchy about it, but I do feel bad about leaving him so much, because I am gone so much anyway. (Today, since I'm on call, I was at the hospital from 9am-3pm, came home for a couple hours, and then took off on my long run at 5:30) The thing is, I'm a much happier person and a better mother and wife when I get my runs in. I feel so much better about myself and I'm better able to give to others. I do sometimes cancel runs because my family's needs really are more important, but I try to stick to it and not feel guilty. I think Penelope hit it on the head that there is no way staying with his own kids for a few hours ruins anyone's weekend. I'd definitely invite dh to help you come up with a plan that meets both your needs (trading times to run, or being flexible about which weekend day you long run, or whatever) but I'm make darn sure your needs get met!

Nick - I'b be pretty : at the idea that my runs are less important if dh was a better athlete. You are 100% a real runner and deserve time to work at it! You can start your new pill anytime in the 1st 5 days of your cycle (counting from the first day of any bleeding) and still have it be effective that cycle. If you start any other time, you need a back up method the first 2 weeks. If you've been on combination birth control pills before, you may not notice much difference, if you haven't been, you may notice nausea when you are first starting. I feel pretty yucky on the pill myself (sluggish and bloated and slow) but I think that's a minority experience. Weight gain is not a common side effect.

tjsmama - Good luck getting your classes set up. I think it'd be great if you could apply in aug and know earlier!

RR - I ran 8.27 outside tonight and felt great. It was about 60, although breezy so my ears were actually sore (I'm such a weather wimp) after, but I was warm enough once I got going in my new dingo shirt and shorts. I didn't look at my watch once while running, just ran at a comfortable pace, and I was pleased to find afterwards that it was pretty much exactly 10 minute mile pace. My last longer outdoor run before the half felt terrible (and I felt sick during the half) so it was nice to see that I can run outside and feel good!

We have a crazy week this week between baseball games and end of year school events. I'm trying to work out my running plan for the week, but I haven't figured it all out yet.
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Robin Way to Go on your 20.15! I didn't see your post before but I love the image of you running with a snakeskin on your shoulders, that's so hardcore Dingo!

HBM - Meant to send a out, I hope now that you have a point of reference for what's going on with your dd you can all find some good support and solutions soon.

Nick - Another to your dh for being snobby. It's not like he sprang from the womb on a tri bike!

Gaye - I'd want to know sooner rather than later too, waiting until March would drive me nuts.

I'm thinking dh must have just had a bug up his yesterday or something because today he was bragging about how far I've been running. Whatever, I'll take it!
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kerc--congrats! Hope you had an awesome party! Sorry to hear the news about your mom though.

tjsmama--argh about STBX! Glad you're home now though.

JenLove--yay for the swim! On eating and BF: I ate all the time. Luna and Clif bars were a huge favorite because they can be eaten one-handed. I'm also a big fan of the Justin's peanut butter packages lately, for the same reason. I like smoothies too--homemade if possible, but otherwise the Naked Juice or Odwalla ones are healthy and yummy.

Plady--um, I've had that conversation with my DH multiple times. : He is definitely not a fan of marathon training or sometimes, running in general. The short answer is that I'm not going to try for another marathon until DD is in school so I can do the long runs then and not hear about it. : (It's not my preferred solution, but it's a battle I'm choosing not to fight...yet.) He usually only complained once every few weeks, but it drove me batty. Now that I usually don't run more than 10 miles and do half-marathons, it's better. I've also been dropping DD off at my sister's to do my longer speedwork runs (like 6 with a 4-mile tempo run). You're not at all being selfish!

Faliciagayle--congrats! Sounds like you had fun in the race.

towsonmama--wow! Great job!

RR: did 9 at high altitude (~8300 feet) this afternoon and it was awesome! I love this time of year in the mountains, when there's still plenty of snow on the high peaks and it's not too hot yet. It's a nice run because although it's along the road, there are good views all around and it's mostly right along the lake.
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Gaye..you are a much more graceful person than I am.

HBM... I think making decisions about children is exhausting.

Towson...congratulations!!!

My dh is supportive of all my fitness and running. I'm my own worst enemy and have spells of guilt. Ridiculous.

This week I'm planning an intense workout week. After this I will start to taper.
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