Originally Posted by Hazelnut
If only women's concerns over porn weren't dismissed in any conversation I've ever seen it come up in, I would perhaps have the capacity to be more patient with it. I did not object to every post in this thread that had no problem with it.
I think that this is a very touchy issue, and people on both sides have strong opinions. This is, obviously, one of the signs of a healthy community in which hard topics can be debated. You, and anyone else, certainly has the right to feel concern over porn. In fact, most of the posts in this thread, particularly in the beginning, expressed just that.
I do think it's dangerous though to try and say that we don't have the need to talk about porn as a free speech issue, which is, I think, what the blahblahblah post was saying. There has actually been a long history in the U.S. of trying to ban pornography in various forms. How can we engage with that debate without acknowledging how our positions as parents has changed- or not changed- our views?
I also think it's dangerous to assume that porn is something that women only interact with as victims. I mean, men aren't the only people who watch and enjoy porn, you know? Many women, myself included, enjoy porn, and sometimes watch it. To say that porn is always disgusting implies that there is something wrong or bad about the sexuality and identity of those who enjoy it.
So, to the OP, no, my views on porn haven't changed, as the mother of a daughter. As RoseD said, I'm far more concerned about Barbie and company. Honestly I think that for me, having a son might actually make things more complicated. As a woman who sometimes enjoys, and is not threatened by, porn, I understand how a woman (as my daughter will someday be) could have a healthy relationship with it. It would probably be more challenging for me to know that a son was interested in it, since I'd have less personal frame of reference for understanding how he was relating to it.