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Im in a bad mood. Venty

post #1 of 9
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Sweetie has left for his brother's bachelor party. He's going to meet up with everyone in Washington, PA then they are going to Wheeling, WV. He'll prob stay the night out there, but he's undecided.

So, all week I've been asking him what their plans are. It's been, "I don't know." all week.

His brother called today to tell him where dinner is, and the plan for the night. Sweetie has the phone volume turned ALL the way up on his phone because he can't hear very well, so even though his chair is a good 10 feet from me, I can hear whoever he's talking to.

So, his brother gives him the directions to "Jills" which I am aware is a strip club in Wheeling. Even if I didn't know already that is what it is, his brother said, "After dinner, we're going to Jills strip club." Don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure that out.

I'm not dumb. I know most bachelor parties=strippers, etc. I dont even really care about it that much...(Well, I do, of course being self conscious and not feeling my most attractive recently...But I do trust him, and he's coming home to me, so whatever.)

About an hour after he talked to his brother, I asked him where they were going tonight. He said, "Just to dinner in Washington, then to the casino." :

I'm not in the mood to fight, so I just didn't say anything. I'm just annoyed that he couldn't just say, "We're going to the strip club!"
post #2 of 9
I am in a very pissy mood too... So it makes two of us.
DH is sicki-sh for the second week-end in a row and is just agonizing on the couch... So I am sucking up my back pain, the annoying braxton-hicks and cleaning the house, caring for DD, organizing the kids room and getting birth stuff ready and all by myself.
This is after he gave a spiel last week that my job was to sit down on my butt, eat and wait for the baby! Nice in theory, but the house doesn't clean itself :
post #3 of 9

Not long after I found out I was pregnant this time, DH and I went out for supper with our good friends. While we were sitting at the restaurant, some young, scantily clad women went past giggling and DH TOTALLY checked them out and he made a vague remark to the male half of the couple about them. (I don't remember what the remark was even.) Then he proceeded to deny any involvement in looking at them whatsoever.
I was SO MAD.
I'm sorry he wasn't truthful.
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Originally Posted by JD5351 View Post
I'm not in the mood to fight, so I just didn't say anything. I'm just annoyed that he couldn't just say, "We're going to the strip club!"
Maybe he thought you'd be annoyed about him going? Just cheerfully tell him to have fun at the strip club as he leaves. There will be no time for a fight while he is on his way out, and he might realize it was useless to lie.
post #5 of 9
That would put me in a crappy mood too! I'm with you, I'd be more frustrated with the fact that he couldn't just say where he was going. In his guy mind, he is probably trying to be sensitive to your feelings, because to him going to a strip club doesn't mean anything negative at all and he doesn't want you to feel bad. Sorry you're frustrated mama
post #6 of 9
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I am mostly annoyed that he couldn't just say, "We're going to the strip club".

I'll bring it up tomorrow when he gets back. "Win anything at the casino? How were the strippers?"
post #7 of 9
Yeah, I'd be peeved, too. I'd not have been okay with the strip club to begin with, TBH, but then lie to me about it? Oh heck no!
post #8 of 9
Honestly, I think you could have a lot of fun with this when he gets back.

"So, were the coin slots nice and smooth?"

"Did any of you guys get a really lucky pull?"

etc. etc.

Of course, I am evil, and not too disturbed by bachelor parties with strippers as long as I know that actual adultery will not be going down. But the lying is just totally lame.
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Originally Posted by Smithie View Post
Honestly, I think you could have a lot of fun with this when he gets back.

"So, were the coin slots nice and smooth?"

"Did any of you guys get a really lucky pull?"

etc. etc.

Of course, I am evil, and not too disturbed by bachelor parties with strippers as long as I know that actual adultery will not be going down. But the lying is just totally lame.
LOL Maybe I'll do that.
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