Anything in particular bring you here?

[IceyTheBatmom]

I recently suggested my DH take a look around here, as he's temporary a SAHD of a self-nightweaning/napweaning 19 mo., with another on the way, has 1 and a 1/2 'other dads' type friends (one has a son about to start kindergarten, the other is adopting this year, but has no children yet) so he seems a little lonely in the aspect of other guys he can relate to, we've got a bit of a head start on the family thing, compared to his old buddies from highschool.

Despite the crunchy-friendliness of our area, certain things we do are really rare here, like uncirc., unvax, no CIO, babywearing, and GD, so it's hard for him to talk to anybody but me about it.

I know he wouldn't be interested in a real-life dad's group. I think a message board would be easy for him, and this is the place for the type of parenting we do, but he's reluctant.

So what really attracts you to this spot? To Mothering, specifically?

And if anybody (guy or gal, he doesn't care) happens to play World of Warcraft on Hellscream, that might be a plus, lol.

[lolar2DH]

I lurked for years because my wife posts here pretty often. Every so often the temptation to reply was too great and I'd piggyback on her account, specifying that it was me rather than she. So I finally got around to making my own account.

[colsxjack]

My wife is on another similar board. She would point things out to me that she read that were interesting. A lot of the parenting styles were not that similar to ours though. There was a lot of the people doing CIO and putting their kids in their own rooms at 6 weeks and starting solids at 3-4 months, etc.

We found this board.

What brings me here? We are both pretty "crunchy" as they say. We are first time parents to a now 8month old daughter. We have ideas about parenting, but no really real-life people who share our views.

It is a really easy place to get some good advice. I mostly read, and most of what I read comes from Moms. But Moms have some good advice and good ideas. I come here because I get validation that some of the things we are doing with parenting are worth it and not just going to cause problems in the future. (like carrying a baby too much spoiling them or something).

I have more confidence in myself as a father and in my wife as a mother since reading stuff on this board. And it also helps me to take my wife's advice instead of just thinking that she is being controlling.

[Wintergreen]

Originally Posted by colsxjack

My wife is on another similar board. She would point things out to me that she read that were interesting. A lot of the parenting styles were not that similar to ours though.

What brings me here? We are both pretty "crunchy" as they say. We have ideas about parenting, but no really real-life people who share our views.

Same here. Just very 'crunchy' and hard to find 'real' people that share our views on many things. I also started reading Mothering when it showed up in our house, and likes almost every article (sans the Rocking Mom one from sometime last year).

Hey Colsxjax, noticed you are from TO...we are Canadian too. From other boards I've been on, 'we' Canadians seem to be a bit more crunchy...especially on the BF issue.

[jchandlerphoto]

Jsut signed up

We get mothering and its not a bag mag. I'm starting to like discussion areas to get ideas for my business so I thought I would check this out.

[LyricsDad]

Lurked from afar, now a member

Originally Posted by IceyTheBatmom

So what really attracts you to this spot? To Mothering, specifically?

I too have lurked for sometime. But only to the extent of seething quietly, yet threatening to join when my wife has read particularly "interesting" posts to me.

We live in a lovely part of Australia, which has a reasonable population of those who are "crunchy" as the US colloquialism describes. It's a lovely way of putting it :-)

But I may now succumb to responding to those posts that I see as more outlandish than is reasonable.

Sorry, no idea about W of W.

Chris

[colsxjack]

Originally Posted by Wintergreen

Hey Colsxjax, noticed you are from TO...we are Canadian too. From other boards I've been on, 'we' Canadians seem to be a bit more crunchy...especially on the BF issue.

Canadians possibly get much more support with BF and the average woman can breast feed for longer since we have access to 12 months of (at least) partially paid parental leave. I don't know if my wife could have continued BF'ing if she had to go back to work at 12 weeks.

[Wintergreen]

Originally Posted by jchandlerphoto

We get mothering and its not a bag mag.

It's funny, ours does come in a bag...I guess b/c we are "International" or something?

[daddyray]

I haven't found many good parenting web sites and don't have family close by, so I read the threads here. Sometimes I want to respond so I created an account.

[tommynomad]

Shenomad and I are expecting our first, and want as much info as possible. A web search brought me here. My DW isn't comfortable in English online communities, so it's up to me (online since waaaaay before the internet went public).

We come from fairly uncrunchy backgrounds, but are progressive compared to our peer-parents.

Sorry, OP: no WoW. We're boardgamers.

[Alexander]

I have a couple of bees in my bonnet:

1) spanking children (instead of listening to, and reasoning with them)

2) the misuse of indutrialised education in an information world

This site gave me the opportunity to share with people who wanted to make a postive change to the way they lived, but needed ideas or hints, reasurance and backup and even permission.

I'm more out than in these days, but still drop by to lurk.

[CalvinTy]

Originally Posted by lolar2DH

I lurked for years because my wife posts here pretty often. Every so often the temptation to reply was too great and I'd piggyback on her account, specifying that it was me rather than she. So I finally got around to making my own account.

That's essentially why I'm here, except that I did not want to piggyback on my wife's account as we have different writing styles and I wanted to separate our voices on the forum. So I never tried to post anything on the wife's account. Today, I finally registered for my own account but I had not lurked much because I like to read the posts on my own pace before getting into discussion so that's why I finally have the account so my wife knows that I have read and/or given feedback to a topic or her own posts, etcetera.

* CalvinTy