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Originally Posted by vegemamato 
I thought that was unnecessary.. the mom's are doing EXACTLY what they're told, trying to be 'good' parents. The marketers of pacifiers (and formula and any other essential baby item) have gone as far as they possibly can in order to make sure we KNOW how well their products work, and KNOW that we *are* failing as mothers if we don't own/use each and every one of these amazing little gadgets. I mean, why wouldn't we want to offer the security of a binky or the disclipline of a time-out mat 
Anyway- just saying that I don't blame the mamas, how could I when there are so many outside influences? (just as I wouldn't blame a ff mom who didn't breastfeed because it was 'gross')
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Well, as someone who successfully BF a binky-loving baby, I have to say that the pacifier probably saved our nursing relationship. My first baby wanted to suck constantly - non nutritively. It was making me crazy, and I do mean crazy. My very pro-BF ped said "Get a pacifier. Try it. Don't overuse it." Being able to not have that awful squirrely feeling of being chewed-not-chewed on enabled me to get through the first weeks of nursing. It enabled me to take some much-needed showers. It enabled me to get out of the house by driving more than 10 minutes in any direction.
DS breastfed exclusively to 6mos and gently weaned at my direction at 18 mos - early, I know, but I was through pumping at work and had always had that AAP 12 months as my goal with #1. If I had been told I couldn't use a pacifier, that it would make me an awful mom and ruin my child's life, I probably would have wound up weaning very early. Because all the "suck it up" advice in the world didn't make up for the fact that the non-swallowing nibble-nursing was making my skin crawl and making me dread nursing my baby.
How many of those statistically earlier weaners were babies like mine, whose constant need to nurse made me hate nursing and dread the very act of it? How much of the earlier weaning is actually a maternal response to that, either conscious or unconscious.
FWIW, my 2nd never used a pacifier. Do I get mommy bonus points for that even though its because she found her thumb and sucked that more often and eagerly than her brother took his pacifier (because we restricted his pacifier use, but couldn't withhold her own thumb)