Wow, I knew there were differing opinions on the weapon play things but didn't realise it caused so much issues in play groups.
I came from the side of no gun play until my son was turning anything and everything into a weapon. Overtime I've read more, relaxed more and allowed weapons into the home, but they remain toy like and very simplistic e.g. wooden cutout guns, water guns (and we actually only have one of these), wooden swords etc. My rule is no weapon that looks real will come into my home...but that is my personal preference rather than anything else, I don't really like cheap plastic toys which only have one function (which is mainly to break )
I certainly agree with respecting a hosts wishes when visiting them.
And I agree children shouldn't be left unsupervised to harass and potentially hurt other children.
I also agree that the group shouldn't have to adhere to the most restrictive parent's wishes
I'd probably just end up meeting with people that were more similar to me, I tend to be unconfrontational and prefer to spend time with people that won't be upset by my parenting choices (or my children's playing choices). I think people assume we all have to be similar minded just because we homeschool/unschool.
Anyway, as an aside I tend not to let my children take their weapons with them when we go out because I know some people have issues with it, but also because I find children that aren't allowed to play with them are the ones who tend to get a bit rough and out of hand with them. My children know not to hit anyone with a sword, but my son has been hit hard enough to bruise several times by someone else's child who he was allowing to use his sword while they were playing. So now I prefer to keep that for home play where I know everyone will be safe!