Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy
my dad did my taxes for me using turbotax. he usually helps me with them every year but this year he just did them himself without me there. i owed him about $200 so he wanted to do the taxes so that he could get the money that i owed him. He had all the money direct deposited into HIS bank account. I don't know why. Like i said I wasn't there so I had no control over any of this. Now instead of giving me all the money, they are making me call and explain what i need money for,a nd then they divy it out as they see fit.
The harrassment charge against me was in PA. I had no money to travel there and i missed the court date. I am trying to get it rescheduled before they issue a warrant against me.
The other issues are:
I have no insurance so I can't get prenatal care. For all I know I could have lost the pregnancy and not even realized it.
I have no access to my money.
I'm still married and need to get a divorce before i start showing and my problems are compounded
There is probably more but that is what comes to mind off the top of my head.
Ok, I see two issues. The fact that you have no money and that you might get a warrant out for you soon. Have you talked to the DA?
You do need a divorce, but it's not an emergency. Has the divorce started? Are you waiting for a court date or any finalization? Do you need to start from square one there? Even if you're showing during the divorce, that's ok. It'll suck, but it's ok.
How to get money is your main issue right now. Do your parents knowt that you're pregnant? Can you tell them that you need money for a dr. appt for your son and use that for a bus/train ticket to Georgia? Have you looked into what public assistance you can get in Texas? Can you get a daycare subsidy so that you can get a job. Which state has more benefits available. Where can you most likely find a job?
Try to get a little of your money from your dad, but assume that that money is no longer yours. There's no sense in driving yourself crazy over it when you can't control this situation right now. Ask for it all and if you don't get it, assume that you won't get any and move on. Consider it payment for an education.
For prenatal care, have you been to your local health clinic? That's a start and then you have some time before you need prenatal healthcare.
Wow, it is a jumbled mess with lots of if ands or butts. Start with the warrant, then look at where you can most likely stay for a few months and get settled. That's the place where you need to apply for assistance and look for a job. After you have that taken care of, you can tackle the divorce.
If you get it rescheduled, that will help you draw a timeline.