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post #1 of 41
Thread Starter 
Do we have one?

Can we start one?

I would love to read what all you homebirthers are thinking about, planning, questioning.... We are considering a homebirth and I am just soaking up everything I can.

Anyway, let's see how many we have in our due date club!

Kelly
post #2 of 41
Me! We are planning our third birth with our midwife, and second homebirth with her. I'm so excited

I'm thinking about trying hypnobabies this time around. I didn't do much labor prep with my other two, and everything went fine with DS, but DD's labor wasn't as smooth and I wasn't expecting that - which makes me want to prepare for this birth more.
post #3 of 41
We're planning a homebirth! This will be our first...DS was born via unnecessary induction
I feel really strongly about doing things completely differently this time.

I'm interested in the hypnobabies cds as well. Can anyone make a recommendation?
post #4 of 41
We are planning a homebirth. As far as planning, hmmm.... well I dumped my OB and starting seeing a MW- does that count?
post #5 of 41
Me. No planning here, just go with the flow. I would like to try out the soaker tub this time around though.
post #6 of 41
I'm doing a homebirth too! It's my second birth but first homebirth so I'm excited. I love my midwife. She just came over today for a heartbeat check (11 weeks) but we didn't hear anything so she'll be back in two weeks. Can't wait!
post #7 of 41
I'm having my first home birth, 3rd baby. First 2 were in the hospital with a doctor so this is a whole new thing for me. I'm not planning too much right now, just reading everything I can get my hands on about natural childbirth, and I'm going to take Bradley classes and prenatal yoga.
post #8 of 41
I am thinking about homebirth. I am not finding a midwife as close as I would like, but I had previous long labors... I had a 3 hour glucose test yesterday so a lot depends on those results as well... DH isn't all the way behind me either...
post #9 of 41
Me!

No planning yet either, but I'll get there. Also, no hypnobabies for me (too much work!)
post #10 of 41
Thread Starter 
Well, my DS was a csection for breech presentation. DD was a midwife attended hospital birth. Her birth went way out of control. I was doing great until I got to the hospital. Then, they had to break my water and put internal monitors in since I was a VBAC. After that, I couldn't cope AT ALL and ended up with an epidural (which was a little piece of heaven at the time). I believe that breaking my water put my body into overdrive. Since, for the first time I even labored with a baby (no contractions with DS), she was born in just 5 hours after 3 pushed on just one contraction. Needless to say, my body worked way faster than it should have and I think this is the reason that I hemorraghed afterwards. The midwife was able to stop it but it was a bit scary there for a few minutes.

Anyway, I started thinking about homebirth right after this happened. Started wondering what might have happened if they hadn't broken my water. DH was firmly against hb but I think he realized that he was negating something out of not understanding and fear. So, he thought meeting and talking with a midwife would be the best thing to do. She is visiting us tomorrow and I am so excited and nervous.

It remains to be seen whether we will decide a hb or hospital is best but it is great to possibly have the choice!

Oh, and I did hypbirth with DD and I LOVED it. DH even commented about how I was totally unreachable in my labor land. I have already started listening to it again. I downloaded everything to my ipod this time.

Maybe we can keep this thread going with hb type questions, comments, problems???

Kelly
post #11 of 41
I am still trying to decide, but I am leaning toward homebirth. I would really love to have one. Before I was pregnant, I knew I wanted a homebirth, but once I was actually pregnant, the decision seemed much more overwhelming... But still, I am thinking I will probably have a homebirth.

Our families are going to freak out!!! OMG I don't know how to tell them without them totally going off.

My SIL suffered a ruptured uterus during her birth, a lot of bleeding, and nearly had to have a hysterectomy, so I know that dh's side of the family will be very alarmed. But fortunately, my dh is very supportive.
post #12 of 41
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Originally Posted by HeatherRD View Post
Our families are going to freak out!!! OMG I don't know how to tell them without them totally going off.

My SIL suffered a ruptured uterus during her birth, a lot of bleeding, and nearly had to have a hysterectomy, so I know that dh's side of the family will be very alarmed. But fortunately, my dh is very supportive.
I hear you. I was worried, and once I made up my mind (DH was born at home so he was always supportive) I haven't looked back. I am dreaming of what I'll be doing while in labor- sitting on my patio? taking a bath? laying on my pillowtop mattress? walking around my backyard? All the stuff I couldn't do in a hospital...

That's frightening about your SIL. Was she on pit or was it all-natural? Scary, scary! Luckily it's EXREMELY RARE, and even more rare with unmedicated delivery.

GL with your decision!
post #13 of 41
This is my third baby, third (planned) out of hospital, second homebirth.

I'm not thinking about the birth at all at this point, but a friend/former client of mine had supplies from her homebirth-turned-hospital birth and gave them all to me last week. So I have most of my birth supplies sitting upstairs in the closet already. We are in a different house this time, and I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that I'm a)having a baby in the first place and b)the baby will be born here.

I think there was a thread a while back but it's buried now. The homebirth forum here is a really great resource, too.
post #14 of 41
I'm pretty sure I'm going to be in. I've looked at Hypnobabies too, I'm going to get that by August. Seems way better for me than taking a class somewhere since I'm pretty much a solo mama and I think it would bum me out to be with all the happy couples.

I promise to start interviewing midwives and doulas next week.
post #15 of 41
On the subject of relatives freaking out... I only told people I knew would support me. I kind of went with a if they don't ask, don't tell them mentality. Part of that was because I told a lot of people about my first, which in the end was a transfer from a FSBC (for a long exhausting labor, no real complications) and I had to tell people about transferring. I also just didn't want the negativity. I am lucky enough to be surrounded with other homebirthing families, which was also helpful.

My mom had unmedicated births and was into things that were really out there at the time she had babies. So, talking to her about it wasn't too difficult, I just made sure I talked about it really early on (actually, before I got pregnant the second time) and that if she had questions I would happily answer them. My dad never said a word, but made a comment to me once about being a doula at homebirths and how I should protect myself in case of liability because of the "risk" of a homebirth. This was long after we'd done it, and I went into my whole soapbox monologue about why I feel hospital births can be riskier for low risk women.

The only person in my life who was really angry about it was my aunt. She works in a NICU and she thought it was a really irresponsible thing to do. She didn't even call me until two weeks after our son was born because she was so upset about it. Everyone else has either supported or kept their mouths shut. I think that's partly because no one really knew until after the baby was here.
post #16 of 41
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That's frightening about your SIL. Was she on pit or was it all-natural? Scary, scary! Luckily it's EXREMELY RARE, and even more rare with unmedicated delivery.
Oh, she was induced for being 5 days past due. Sad thing is, she had a great pregnancy, no health issues, everything fine, so I think it probably wouldn't have happened if she hadn't been induced, but you never know...

She is now pg with her 2nd child. I was surprised she could still carry a baby. She has the c/s incision as well, because when she was in labor, the baby was in distress and they performed a c/s. They didn't see the uterine rupture because it was on the backside of the uterus, and didn't find out about it until later when she was bleeding profusely. So anyway, I didn't think she'd be able to have more children, but I guess she can. I'm sure she must be extremely high risk though.

The funny thing is, my FIL said, "This is why women should give up their romantic notions of homebirth." I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WOMEN STILL DID THAT!! That comment is what got me started researching homebirth. Should I tell him????


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GL with your decision!

Thanks!!
post #17 of 41

1st Homebirth

I am due Nov. 28th and looking into doing a homebirth. I am looking for an experienced unlicensed midwife in utah. I haven't had any success finding anyone. Any suggestions?
post #18 of 41
Baby #1 for us, got the CPM and the Bradley class lined up.
post #19 of 41
Here. I'm thinking Please let everything go well so we don't have to do a hospital transfer and pay for it out of pocket. I'm also thinking Thank my midwives and OB from last time for letting me have a vaginal birth even though dd was breech so I don't have to pay for a VBAC or a repeat Cesarean out of pocket.

That about sums it up for me right now.
post #20 of 41
Yup, we had a homebirth thread going, but it fell off the front page. We are having our first HB. Our first was a posterior hospital OB birth and the other 5 were hospital births with CNMs. One of those was a water birth. I can't wait to have this HB. I've been wanting one since my 2nd pregnancy, but insurance was the hanging point for us. Hard to justify paying $3500+ for a homebirth when we pay $0 for a hospital birth. The CNMs and the hospital were pretty crunchy in general. (Although a PITB about GBS and eye goo...) But AFAIK, because we have a CNM for our HB the insurance is paying for it! : And I ADORE my midwife. (A few others in the Nov DDC are having here also.)
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