Mother's Day even if you aren't technically a Mom yet?

[Ldavis24]

First,
Mother's day should be every day! I sent my mom a card saying that because it's true...

However, it is nice to have a day where DH or kids lavish attention, yummy food or treats on you!

Finally, not yet being a mommy (although I could be any day now!) is it weird to be having special plans for the day?

DH has reservations at some secret place (I can't remember the last time I went anywhere that required a reservation) and is taking me out shopping for nursing bras and a couple nursing tanks (how sexy and romantic!)

Am I being too demanding since I said I "deserve" it?!

Anyone else with special plans?? Like having a baby or something fun like that.

[~Katie~]

No you're a mama whether your child is earth-bound yet or not. I think its great that he's doing something so special for you

I'd like to have a baby that day but we'll see.

[nukedwifey]

I had a discussion about this with some family friends actually. She was pregnant and due around this time of year and didn't have the baby prior to mother's day (her daughter is now 23) and her DH didn't do anything for her and said she isn't a mother yet. Well, all these years later he views that very differently and thinks that he was in the wrong then and she won't let him live it down (in a silly remember when way). So, no it's not at all wrong that you are celebrating it. It's great that you're DH is so open to realizing this, actually. You've already done 9 months of mothering, loving, and protecting of your babe. Nothing can change that!

[Quate]

My DH asked me yesterday what I wanted for Mother's Day but I still haven't figured it out.

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by Quate

My DH asked me yesterday what I wanted for Mother's Day but I still haven't figured it out.

I think I requested something along the lines of an Ice cream party from my DH, he is really into the whole thing though, which I don't object to at all...

The only person who said it was weird was my MIL, but she is your stereotypical evil MIL so I tend to ignore her as much as I can!
I think she is jealous that DH isn't focusing on her for mother's day!

[Asher]

I think it's great. You ARE a mommy.

I told DH all I want for mothers day is this baby, but there's not much he can do about that!

[mynameisMom]

You're not only a mommy, you're the quintessential representation of motherhood! Enjoy it.

I'd like to have my baby for mother's day ... failing that, I'll take my cup of half-caf in bed, hugs from my kids, and an hour of peace and quiet.

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by Asher

I think it's great. You ARE a mommy.

I told DH all I want for mothers day is this baby, but there's not much he can do about that!

I think my DH would love for that to happenon Mother's Day too...Then again I think he would love for her to be here right now! He's been having conservations with DD each night asking her to please come out so he can finally get a chance to hold her...
There is something really adorable about a man who is 6'4 and nearly 200lbs with long hair and a beard talking to my stomach...sigh

[trauerweidchen]

I can't remember where I heard this or who said it (Dr. Marsden Wagner?), but I like the concept (paraphrased): "A woman becomes a mother when she gets pregnant. A man becomes a father when the baby is born." I'd actually err on the side of saying that the man is a father during the pregnancy too, if he's there and supporting you and experiencing the transformation that your lives are undergoing. I know I consider my DH a father, and this is my first mother's day as far as I'm concerned. (It's going to be a low-key day either way... )

[vegasgrl]

I'm totally crashing from Nov to say I've been a mommy for a few weeks at least...I am physically carrying around my baby - IT'S INSIDE OF ME RIGHT NOW!!! How much more of a mommy can I be? I eat better because I know s/he's in there. I take vitamins and fish oil supplements because I want to take care of him/her the best I can. I have a zillion doctor's appointments and I show u/s pictures as "baby's first album." Pretty much every waking moment of my life is consumed with what I need to do to give this LO the best chance in life s/he can have. Isn't that what a mother does?

I can't believe MIL carried around babies herself and doesn't get that.

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by vegasgrl

I'm totally crashing from Nov to say I've been a mommy for a few weeks at least...I am physically carrying around my baby - IT'S INSIDE OF ME RIGHT NOW!!! How much more of a mommy can I be? I eat better because I know s/he's in there. I take vitamins and fish oil supplements because I want to take care of him/her the best I can. I have a zillion doctor's appointments and I show u/s pictures as "baby's first album." Pretty much every waking moment of my life is consumed with what I need to do to give this LO the best chance in life s/he can have. Isn't that what a mother does?

I can't believe MIL carried around babies herself and doesn't get that.

Ah I could write books about what my MIL doesn't "get". She hasn't shown any interest in me or the baby or my pregnancy but has made it very clear that as soon as DD is born she is going to be right there all the time (unfortunately we live barely 10 minutes away)...This is the same woman who complained that I only had a baby shower out of state and it was "too hard" for her to come and I should have had one here, so DH said to her "why don't you throw her one, she'd like that" and she basically said she was too busy and didn't have time and that someone else or I should do it.

Think of all the negative stereotypes of a MIL and you've got her nailed...Cried when DH told her I wanted DH's step mom to be at the hospital too to see the baby after she is born..Said it wasn't fair and step mom isn't really a part of the family.:

[vegasgrl]

Aw LDavis. I sure don't miss inlaws. My XFIL invited my XH's XW to Christmas dinner (we didn't get along one iota). It ended with XSD12 in the bathroom crying "If YOU weren't here EVERYTHING WOULD BE OKAY!!!"

YOU'RE STILL A MAMA IN MY BOOK!!!!! :

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by vegasgrl

Aw LDavis. I sure don't miss inlaws. My XFIL invited my XH's XW to Christmas dinner (we didn't get along one iota). It ended with XSD12 in the bathroom crying "If YOU weren't here EVERYTHING WOULD BE OKAY!!!"

YOU'RE STILL A MAMA IN MY BOOK!!!!! :

Yikes I don't have anything that crazy that has happened yet...Wait yes I do but thats a whole other story, just never a good idea to actually say to your MIL that she is a crazy *itch who needs stronger medication...Heated moment...

I am a momma, it's just hard to believe DD could be here any day now really. DH was trying to make me understand this and I kept going, oh she's not due for a while, "honey she's due in less than 3 weeks now"..Wait what:

[j_p_i]

It's sweet your DH wants to do something like that for mother's day! My DH is working that day However we're going to my Mom's tomorrow, and he's been telling me that even if baby isn't here by mother's day, I'm definitely a mother!

[Auraji]

Originally Posted by Ldavis24

Ah I could write books about what my MIL doesn't "get". She hasn't shown any interest in me or the baby or my pregnancy but has made it very clear that as soon as DD is born she is going to be right there all the time (unfortunately we live barely 10 minutes away)...This is the same woman who complained that I only had a baby shower out of state and it was "too hard" for her to come and I should have had one here, so DH said to her "why don't you throw her one, she'd like that" and she basically said she was too busy and didn't have time and that someone else or I should do it.

Think of all the negative stereotypes of a MIL and you've got her nailed...Cried when DH told her I wanted DH's step mom to be at the hospital too to see the baby after she is born..Said it wasn't fair and step mom isn't really a part of the family.:

Wait, did I just wrote that? My MIL hasnt even congratulated me or ever asked me how are you feeling, how's the baby doing?
She lives 10 min away too and that's walking. She has three younger kids from another marriage, we were babysitting for them awhile back and they read a card of someone saying congratulations for the baby. When her kids told her that if she knew I was pregnant, she already knew, all she said was "woah".That's all I've gotten this entire pregnancy a woah.
She hasnt bought us ONE baby thing and she just doesnt care. DP works in her company and one day I was really sick, throwing up, it was over 3 days with a fever and I was with dss at home. I told him that I wanted to go to the hospital because the baby wasnt moving as much. I said this in the morning and they didnt let him go until 5. She didnt even give us a ride to the hospital and then she picks us up and it's like "oh, sorry you feel bad". I just said "it's ok". She asked DP a couple of weeks ago when was the baby due and the other day she saw me, said "oh you finally got big". That's it.
I know she was there for dss birth, but I dont want her in mine.

[ColoradoMama]

Originally Posted by KatieJD

No you're a mama whether your child is earth-bound yet or not. I think its great that he's doing something so special for you

Yep! I tell people I'm a mother of five - four on the outside - one on the inside!

I hope to spend Mother's Day cuddling a precious newborn - who, incidentally, needs to be born tonight!

[Ldavis24]

I hope the full mom works for you Colorado!!


Auraji: I know how you feel. I remember when DH called his mom to tell her I was pregnant. Literally the first thing she said was "well at least you're married."

I don't know what I was expecting, when he called to tell her we were getting married the first thing she said was "Oh my god she's pregnant." Because that is the only reason he'd marry me you know!

At this point I could care less if she wants to be involved with the baby now but I told DH after the baby is born the first time she just shows up at our house uninvited will be the last and I will make it perfectly clear to her that she will be asking permission to come over. Also the first time she tries to tell me how to parent my own child (she didn't exactly win mother of the year awards with her two kids who have plenty of psychological issues from her) will also be the last....

We are going over for Mother's day to visit and have breakfast or something but DH told her that he wanted to spend the day with me primarily and make it special...She of course did not take that all that well and said something like "well I am still YOUR mother"...Which is entirely true, unfortunately

[JD5351]

My best friend and her family and me and Sweetie are going out to eat Sunday afternoon.

I'm glad I don't have the family issues going on. (Well, my mom drives me nuts...but she doesn't drive, so I can just not answer the phone if I'm not in the mood..lol) Sweetie's family consists of his dad, brother and his wife and his older sister. That's it.

Before him though, I dated a guy whose family hated me because I wouldn't go to their church...40 miles from my house, 90% of the sermons were about how everyone should give all their money to the church, and I already HAVE another church I go to. I suffered through FIVE years with him, the whole time his family trying to break us up. (His dad even went as far to set him up on a blind date!) I'm sooo glad I woke up and got out of there..lol

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by JD5351

My best friend and her family and me and Sweetie are going out to eat Sunday afternoon.

I'm glad I don't have the family issues going on. (Well, my mom drives me nuts...but she doesn't drive, so I can just not answer the phone if I'm not in the mood..lol) Sweetie's family consists of his dad, brother and his wife and his older sister. That's it.

Before him though, I dated a guy whose family hated me because I wouldn't go to their church...40 miles from my house, 90% of the sermons were about how everyone should give all their money to the church, and I already HAVE another church I go to. I suffered through FIVE years with him, the whole time his family trying to break us up. (His dad even went as far to set him up on a blind date!) I'm sooo glad I woke up and got out of there..lol

You didn't want to give all your money to the church?! How dare you!
That sounds like a nice mother's day. I did my BFing class last night and it was sooo fun. There were only 6 of us in there and my DH and one other fella. We were joking the whole time and our nurse who is a cert lactaction consultant was a wonderful teacher. I am hoping she is on when I am in labor she said just ask for her!
The point is though that it got me really excited to go buy a couple of nursing bras on Mother's Day. DH promised me a little shopping trip for those oh so important accessories!

[AustGirl]

It's Mother's Day morning here, and DH gave me lots of cuddles and made me pancakes