Weekly Chat Thread 05/08-05/10 - Page 3

[ekblad9]

It sounds like you have a great yahoo group there. It is nice to feel like you nearly 100% agree with people on certain things, isn't it? Like, in addition to being here at MDC I have a great group of 10 or so women online who are all very serious about the Catholic Faith. I love that group and am so glad I have it. I really love it here, too, though, and love all the new things I learn. The most important thing I've learned here is that you don't have to be 100% on all the "crunchy" things. Whereve you are most of the members will take you. It's such a great community.

[RoseRed]

Originally Posted by intime0

YEAH, we are all hormonal and cranky. Thanks for that reminder.

That being said, I AM surprised (MY OPINION) by the pregnancy boards. Guess I had my mind set to a different way.

You know what they say about assuming.

I may have approached this the wrong way, I'll give you that. But you know what I really hoped? I really hoped some nice ladies would say, yes, there are a few of us choosing elective procedures, but for the most part this is a crunchy group. Give us a chance. (and thank you to the wonderful poster who did that.)
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Yes you did asume. And I think that is the big problem. You assumed and then passed judgement on us in a very biased way. And you may say that it was not meant that way but the way you typed insinuaded that. You used a lot of words and phrases in caps, used excessive punctuation, and phrased statements and questions in derogitory ways.
You must remember you are online, we can not read your facial expressions or hear the infliction in your voice. It is up to you, to each of us, to phrase things appropriatly so things like this don't happen.

And, if you wanted that response, you should have phrased your query without pointing fingers and undermining the ladies of this board.

[BlessedNotStressed]

[nummies]

Moving on from that...

So, I think I pulled a muscle inbetween my ribs! It hurts to breathe, hurts to move, just plain hurts!!

On a brighter note...Happy mother's day to all!

[DoulaClara]

I'm glad people are sticking around. I think there are a lot of amazing mamas on this board, and I'm looking forward to getting to know you all a little better (I've been very infrequent on these boards in the last two years).

Mandie, sorry you pulled a muscle! I had an odd muscle day, too- my joints around my hips and pelvis hurt so much, I started thinking I was having cramps similar to the ones that ended my pregnancy in February. Fortunately, I helped DH work on his truck, and the smells of the garage made me ill!

Be blessed, mamas! Enjoy your Mother's Day- especially all of you who are experiencing this for the very first time. Your little beans are barely visible to the naked eye, and yet- you still are brand new mamas! Enjoy yourselves tomorrow.

[geekgolightly]

intime0, I hope that you learn to be more accepting.

Most of the women right at this moment in this DDC are early knowing they are pregnant because they have had trouble in the past and were watching hypervigilantly for a BFP, and ran over here as fast as they could when they got it. Including me. Before my pre eclampsia, multiple miscarriages, including recently laboring and birthing my dead 17 week old son, I was very crunchy in terms of home birth vs hospital birth. Now, I am crunchy in other ways, but will want the US, the lab work, and the hospital birth in order to ensure I am doing everything possible considering I am a considered very high risk. I don;t think anyone in their right mind would recommend a UC to me. And no midwife would touch me with a ten foot pole. My options are limited. Do you think you can accept me as I am in this DDC?

[petit_bleuet]

I was ticked off, obviously, but largely over it. Hackles are still a little raised but after having been on a very mainstream board when my son was born and ridiculed and told I made others uncomfortable with my parenting style, I really don't warm to the idea of now being told I'm too mainstream to play here (where I've been visiting since 2003).

Thanks for your apology, intime0. RoseRed 100% ITA.

I had a milkshake for dinner. It was made with 1% milk and 1/2 calorie ice cream and a scoop of protein powder for good measure but yeah. Suddenly solid food didn't sound very happy. Thankfully I had fruits and veggies aplenty earlier today.

And yes, happy Mother's Day to all!

[fascha]

intime0 the reason I came to MDC was because if I mentioned not vax'ing, EBFing, co-sleeping or homebirth on any other boards, I would be attacked (and have been)on other boards. Soooooo, while I don't do EVERYTHING that I've learned about here...the point is that I'VE LEARNED about it at the very least. I think that's mostly what this site is all about. Talking about and promoting the less mainstream without it getting all nasty and "heated" like on other boards.

I was very mainstream before getting pregnant with DS1, and this is a process for me. I am grateful to be welcomed and respected while making my way.

[Bubblette]

Dh got me a card for mother's day

I've stopped temping and I'm trying to live by the Serenity prayer ATM.

I'm here on MDC because I've been attempting more crunch in my life and had no intention of pregnancy at this point. I'm utterly unprepared and had always assumed I'd have done a ton of my research by this point. So- I'm trying to find my way....

[marinak1977]

Ouch Mandie and Clara, I hope your muscles stop hurting soon. I've had a pulled muscle in my back/neck for a few days. It sucks! Turning hurts and reaching for things hurts and... grumble... Normally an ibuprofen would make it all better, but not this time. It's healing though. I spent too much time at work twisted in a funky way, that's what i get for it.

I had a weird food day, was driving around and dinner was running late, so I started feeling nauseous, had to stop and grab something with calories quickly, got the Dannon activia yogurt drink, it tasted horrible!!!! Blech... after I had it - looked at the ingredients and figures, it had a ton of artificial stuff. At least my body wants the good stuff! So, the drink is going in the recycling (well the bottle is, and the drink is down the drain)
Happy mother's day everyone - this is my first with a human bean. But I still want to get a card with the noseprints of my furries.

[RoseRed]

This morning sickness has turned into something compleatly different than my last two pregnanies. I am alright in the morning, good in the evening after dinner and then sick for the rest of the day... blech

Happy mothers day everyone! Hope you have a good one!

Hope your ok Mandy! Chest muscles are the worst to pull

[ekblad9]

Happy Mother's Day everyone!! I'm hiding in my room ATM. Had a busy day but it was mostly good. Oh how I miss coffee.....

I also have the evening sickness which is a bummer at bath/bedtime and when dh is home. Everything basically falls on him (although the big kids do a great job helping out).

Two of my girls are in a local production next weekend (five days of shows) so we have dress rehearsal EVERY night this week. This includes makeup and everything. Oy. I'm not feeling up for it I must say. At least we're done schooling. I just have to get through the next 9 days and I can really just *be* until the morning sickness passes.

Ooh - I hear a vacuum downstairs. that has to be good news, right?

I think dh is going to take me out for dinner. I'm feeling somewhat decent at the moment and am always wondering what I should get to eat that will fill me up but won't make me sick. Of course I crave stuff that's TERRIBLE for me so I'm trying to avoid those things, LOL.

[Bluegoat]

Hmm, it strikes me that even the most crunchy people know that u/s has been shown to have positive benefits in situations where there are higher likelihoods of certain kinds of problems. Has anyone ever disputed that??

On another note, I dreamed that I miscarried last night, and it was a very uncomfortable emotional dream. I am finding myself worried/ with mixed feelings about this pregnancy, as if it was a bad idea, even though it was planned. I think that's why I had the dream.

I would love to do a home birth, but it doesn't look like I will be able to, midwifery has just begun to be regulated in my province, and not all the health regions have midwives yet. I had thought about going into another region at my parents place, but it looks like they may not be offering midwife care at home until they get the protocols worked out.

So I have to choose a local hospital, pretty mainstream (they give routine IVs) but a lowish c/s rate, 5 min away. Or big hospital with a midwife, nice rooms with tubs, but very high c/s rate. 1 hour away. I am inclined this way, but scared of that hospital. Will the midwife make it different than it was when I birthed there before?

If they will take me, after two c/s.