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When can I DTD again?

post #1 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:45pm
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*postpartum sad-face*

This is pretty much the longest we've ever gone.


For the first week, I had no urge to and was too sore to even contemplate.

But I feel fine now. And I REALLY want to.


Still spotting, though...


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post #2 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:46pm
Vaginal birth, no complications, no stitches? Now.
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post #3 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:48pm
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Even if the bleeding hasn't stopped?


And no complications, but I did get a few stitches...

How long do they take to dissolve? Yes, I know, I could look myself, but I have the most squeamish stomach ever about any type of bodily injury and ESPECIALLY about stitches, and I'm scared to look.
*hides* I'm such a wuss. I know.


But I don't feel sore at ALL.
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post #4 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:50pm
My midwives say to listen to your body whether that is 1 week, 1 month, 6 months, or whatever.
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post #5 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:51pm
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Hmmm...

I'm nervous to try, but I may try...
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post #6 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:52pm
I was really afraid to look after giving birth too, but maybe take a look and if things appear okay down there you can give it a try? If you still have stitches I would say wait until those are gone. Last time I don't think we even attempted until closer to 2 months PP because I was so sore but I had already stopped bleeding at that point. I think most people DTD after the bleeding has stopped.
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post #7 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:53pm
I had sex less than 2 weeks pp both times, but I dind't have any stitches or anything. I could have done it earlier but I was nervous.

Just take it slow and use lots of lube.
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post #8 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:53pm
Whenever you feel up for it... I remember being so horny after DD was born... So I understand.
It took about 5 weeks while before I could actually do it (tried and we backed off because I realized I was more sore than I thought), but we did not wait that long for me to orgasm again
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post #9 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:54pm
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
I had sex less than 2 weeks pp both times, but I dind't have any stitches or anything. I could have done it earlier but I was nervous.

Just take it slow and use lots of lube.
Yes, adequate lubrication is key!
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post #10 of 17
5/8/09 at 1:55pm
With stitches there is a risk of infection (because where the suture goes into the flesh is a little wound, kwim?) so i'd have a feel and see if you can feel any stitch remnants. If you can't then you're good to go.

You're not supposed to DTD if you have full on bleeding, but with spotting it's fine - i had spotting for 5 weeks and 5 days, then 2 days off, then AF came back! Carpe DH
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post #11 of 17
5/8/09 at 2:13pm
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Yeah, the stitches are the only thing that REALLY has me holding back at this point...

I'm considering getting my husband to look, but I don't want to traumatize him further or remind him of what happened down there (although he actually did watch her being born and was completely fine with it, despite being completely freaked out beforehand and claiming that he didn't want to see).

I have my PP checkup in a little over two weeks... so I could wait until then... but don't know if I'll make it that long, haha.

And man, I hope my period doesn't come back that quick, although I know that it can even with exclusive BF... I'm crossing my fingers that I got mom's genes, and it will stay away for a year...
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post #12 of 17
5/8/09 at 2:20pm
I definitely got MY moms genes, she exclusively BF and had 3 boys with 19 months between the oldest and youngest...

Really, i'd just feel for stitches if i were you and worried about anyone having to "look". Or just try it and stop if it hurts...?
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post #13 of 17
5/8/09 at 3:30pm
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Originally Posted by GoBecGo View Post
Or just try it and stop if it hurts...?
I may be doing this method this evening. We'll see.


Uh, wish me luck, haha.
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post #14 of 17
5/8/09 at 3:32pm
Good Luck (but not too much - unless you want another kid in 9 months time...lol)
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post #15 of 17
5/8/09 at 5:52pm
Like others have said, there is no hard and fast time frame. But honestly, if I were you I'd get a mirror and look before you give DH the green light. You can't always rely on your nerves down there to tell you what degree of healed wound you've got going on - some of the bits just aren't very sensitive, esp. in the postpartum period.
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post #16 of 17
5/10/09 at 9:08am
I didn't have any stitches this time like with DS1 but my midwife still recommended we wait until after my 6 week postpartum visit. I did tear just a bit and she wants it to heal fully before we try. I'm just glad to not have stitches and am happy to wait, didn't wait long enough last time with DS1 and it did NOT feel good.
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post #17 of 17
5/10/09 at 11:45am
I sympathize! My midwives always say it's fine as long as your lochia has stopped. Last time we waited 4 weeks and it was fine.
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