Originally Posted by churndash
"Dare to Discipline" very explicitly recommends spanking to discipline children up to age 8 and making sure that it is hard enough to make the child cry.
He also recommends using a paddle or switch.
Here's a charming quote from Dr. Dobson:
Oh and let me find the charming anecdote he wrote about beating his dog with a belt because it was defiant. After cornering the dog and beating it into submission, Dobson wrote:
IMO Dobson is just plain evil.
Oh.My.Gosh....I can just never get over the number of people who can look at a little baby, and see a manipulative defiant brat. I....I just can't. I have never, not one single time, no matter how upset she was or how tired I was....I've never looked at my crying child and seen anything but a little creature in need of comfort.
What's MORE....I've never, not ONE single time, ever NOT wanted to comfort her. I've never experienced anything but pleasure while rocking her, patting her little back and shhhhhh-ing her little tears away. That's the BEST feeling, being able to soothe her. Then, she is happy again, and all snuggled up in me. I never feel like more of a mother, than when I have been successful in soothing away her little tears. I cannot imagine, it breaks my heart to THINK of, little babies crying alone in their crib....no one coming to get them. Parents sitting on a couch, thinking "listento him trying to manipulate me!" - is that even REAL? Do these parents REALLY feel that way...or do they WANT to feel that way?
I can't imagine a mother really thinking that....really feeling like her babies cries for her warm touch, were no more than forced, manipulative defiance.
OP....I understand why you did what you did. I think if you made regular habit of going around town, say, weekly, to buy out ALL the Babywise/Dobson books at ALL retailers, in a true effort to ry and stamp them out...or if you were trying to have your state government place a ban on them...THEN I would have a problem with you, for sure! But a couple of $1 books, because you happened upon them?? As long as you don't burn them, that;s okay in MY book.