How many at once?

[KurumiSophia]

Since I'm being made to get my daughter caught up on her shots, I have to take her to the HD tomorrow. Since she's 19 months, how many will they give, should I ask for the brands they use and the lots numbers? What will I need to look for as far as reactions, etc.?

(No, this is not what I want but I don't have a choice...)

[kiara7]

Why don't you have a choice? Which state are you in?

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by kiara7

Why don't you have a choice? Which state are you in?

I have no choice because I commited myself for a week in a mental hospital and as such, my MIL has pretty much taken the reins on healthcare decisions for my daughter since I'm not apparently not stable enough.

[kiara7]

Does she have the power of attorney/legal right for this?

I don't know your situation, it sounds really stressful - I'm sorry.

[JBaxter]

I would do 1 or possibly 2 shots at a time. Things like the DTaP I would do alone. I would wait till the very end to do the MMR ( over 2 yrs if possible) But thats me. You can also "just" do the ones the school suggests. I would also put at least 8 weeks between them.
Which does she need "caught up" on?

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by kiara7

Does she have the power of attorney/legal right for this?

I don't know your situation, it sounds really stressful - I'm sorry.

Not that I'm aware of. Before I commited myself, I was already getting the "You're being medically neglecting" speech so when I put myself in, it only cemented the thought that I can't take of my daughter, I believe. So therefore, she is basically making all the choices.

It is stressful but commiting myself was the best thing I could have done for myself. I just wish I didn't have to take my LO to get the shots.

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by JBaxter

I would do 1 or possibly 2 shots at a time. Things like the DTaP I would do alone. I would wait till the very end to do the MMR ( over 2 yrs if possible) But thats me. You can also "just" do the ones the school suggests. I would also put at least 8 weeks between them.
Which does she need "caught up" on?

Pretty much everything as she hasn't seen a ped. since she was 9 months old.

[MayBaby2007]

Please get a lawyer before you take your daughter to get shots. I can't understand how your MIL would get medical power of attorney? It's none of my business. Just please make sure you have a good lawyer and you know your rights. Many to you.

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by MayBaby2007

Please get a lawyer before you take your daughter to get shots. I can't understand how your MIL would get medical power of attorney? It's none of my business. Just please make sure you have a good lawyer and you know your rights. Many to you.

Honestly, I don't know if she even has medical power of attorney but she has been harping on the issue of vaccination and ordered us to get DD her shots tomorrow. I have a feeling if I don't, there will be consequences of somekind. Thus my asking how many they will do at once and what to ask for as far as names, lot numbers, etc.

[*Jessica*]

Originally Posted by MayBaby2007

Please get a lawyer before you take your daughter to get shots. I can't understand how your MIL would get medical power of attorney? It's none of my business. Just please make sure you have a good lawyer and you know your rights. Many to you.

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[alegna]

Unless she has legal rights- say no for now.

-Angela

[MayBaby2007]

Originally Posted by KurumiSophia

Honestly, I don't know if she even has medical power of attorney but she has been harping on the issue of vaccination and ordered us to get DD her shots tomorrow. I have a feeling if I don't, there will be consequences of somekind. Thus my asking how many they will do at once and what to ask for as far as names, lot numbers, etc.

Your MIL ordered you to get shots?

Are you legally married? If you are committed for mental reasons and are unable to make medical decisions, that power would automatically go to your spouse. Even if you're not married and the child's father is involved/on BC, he should have full say as to what happens to your dd while you're getting well.

This makes absolutely no sense. Get on the phone with a lawyer in the morning 9AM sharp! Call everyone in the book until you speak to a lawyer. Please don't go down w/o a fight. Something is waaaay not right here!

[runes]

Originally Posted by KurumiSophia

Honestly, I don't know if she even has medical power of attorney but she has been harping on the issue of vaccination and ordered us to get DD her shots tomorrow. I have a feeling if I don't, there will be consequences of somekind. Thus my asking how many they will do at once and what to ask for as far as names, lot numbers, etc.

Consequences from who? What kind of person places so much pressure regarding a non-emergency medical situation like vaccinations on a mother who is trying to manage mental health challenges?

I am so sorry, KurumiSophia. As pp's have mentioned, I would definitely get legal advice on this. Do you have a non-vax friendly pediatrician or family doctor that can help out as well? Maybe if your MIL heard from a medical professional that your choices are nowhere near negligent, and that it would be prudent to wait to make these decisions until you were stable, that she would let go of this?

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by MayBaby2007

Your MIL ordered you to get shots?

Are you legally married? If you are committed for mental reasons and are unable to make medical decisions, that power would automatically go to your spouse. Even if you're not married and the child's father is involved/on BC, he should have full say as to what happens to your dd while you're getting well.

This makes absolutely no sense. Get on the phone with a lawyer in the morning 9AM sharp! Call everyone in the book until you speak to a lawyer. Please don't go down w/o a fight. Something is waaaay not right here!

I am legally married. However, I'm pretty much backed into a corner. There's no money for a lawyer, neither of us are employed, and we're living here on her good graces so there's really no fighting it.

So, again I ask...how many will my daughter get, should I be asking for the brand names of the vaccines given, what their lots numbers are, etc.? What should I expect afterwards in regards to reactions, etc.?

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by runes

Consequences from who? What kind of person places so much pressure regarding a non-emergency medical situation like vaccinations on a mother who is trying to manage mental health challenges?

I am so sorry, KurumiSophia. As pp's have mentioned, I would definitely get legal advice on this. Do you have a non-vax friendly pediatrician or family doctor that can help out as well? Maybe if your MIL heard from a medical professional that your choices are nowhere near negligent, and that it would be prudent to wait to make these decisions until you were stable, that she would let go of this?

My MIL would definitely have some kind of consequences but I have no idea what kind if we fail to get the shots. We have no insurance (waiting on the letter of acceptance or denial from Medicaid) and as such, we have no doctor. When MIL gets on to something, she's like a dog with a bone, she just won't let it go and will harp until its done, no matter what it is. (Not that she's a bad person, we just don't see eye to eye on some things, vaccinations being one of them)

[runes]

Originally Posted by KurumiSophia

My MIL would definitely have some kind of consequences but I have no idea what kind if we fail to get the shots. We have no insurance (waiting on the letter of acceptance or denial from Medicaid) and as such, we have no doctor. When MIL gets on to something, she's like a dog with a bone, she just won't let it go and will harp until its done, no matter what it is. (Not that she's a bad person, we just don't see eye to eye on some things, vaccinations being one of them)

What can she do to you? Not vaccinating is not against the law, you've not done anything wrong. Are you talking about her punishing you and your family in some way? She may not be a bad person (and I question that, if she is pushing and demanding something like this during a difficult time in your life), but she has some serious boundary issues at the very least.

I'm so sorry.

[alegna]

Originally Posted by KurumiSophia

I am legally married. However, I'm pretty much backed into a corner. There's no money for a lawyer, neither of us are employed, and we're living here on her good graces so there's really no fighting it.

It's your child. Your call. You are her legal guardian or her father is. If you don't want her vaccinated, if you don't think it's in her best interest right now- DON'T do it.

If there is no court order, then it is your choice.

If you want to choose to vaccinate, take your time and research. Don't do any tomorrow.

-Angela

[MayBaby2007]

Originally Posted by alegna

It's your child. Your call. You are her legal guardian or her father is. If you don't want her vaccinated, if you don't think it's in her best interest right now- DON'T do it.

If there is no court order, then it is your choice.

If you want to choose to vaccinate, take your time and research. Don't do any tomorrow.

-Angela

This.

I guess you're worried about MIL kicking you out if you don't vax? There are temporary shelters until you/dh get on your feet and find a place to stay. Don't take this abuse (her way or the hwy, mind games) from your MIL!

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by runes

What can she do to you? Not vaccinating is not against the law, you've not done anything wrong. Are you talking about her punishing you and your family in some way? She may not be a bad person (and I question that, if she is pushing and demanding something like this during a difficult time in your life), but she has some serious boundary issues at the very least.

I'm so sorry.

She certainly could make life more difficult for us. She's very heavily mainstream in her thinking so for me to be this person who's out of the norm is very odd to her. I've tried to explain that there is no law that requires it and mentioned that DD when she comes of age, can still go to school if not vaxed as long as an exemption is filed and she just let that fly in one ear and out the other. I feel very beaten at this point and know there isn't anything I can do to fight it.

[runes]

Originally Posted by MayBaby2007

This.

I guess you're worried about MIL kicking you out if you don't vax? There are temporary shelters until you/dh get on your feet and find a place to stay. Don't take this abuse (her way or the hwy, mind games) from your MIL!

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Yes. This is abuse. Emotional abuse. Making these kinds of conditions on you and your family continuing to live with her is absolutely inappropriate, is there any place that you can go? I know you said that she is not a bad person, but a truly good, loving, healthy person doesn't do this to family.