Thanks so much for all your words of wisdom ladies! I really appreciate it.
I feel extremely fortunate that my dh is super, super supportive of breastfeeding (former friends of ours tried to bf with their 3rd and the husband was the perfect role model of how NOT to support your wife when bfing). We've been watching some videos on YouTube and he's read Dr. Sears' section for dads in the Breastfeeding book. Although, there's no substitute for the real thing
The hospital we chose does not routinely take babies to the nursery during recovery and 24/7 rooming in is encouraged. I've specified on the birth plan that we want to bathe the baby ourselves (figure I'll just keep telling them that now isn't a good time and we'll do it ourselves at home). I know the post-partum nurse who gave us the hospital tour mentioned she'd had a couple wait 24 hours, so at least that's a start.
I've talked to my doc about the baby staying with us in the OR and recovery and he said that if that's what we want and baby is fine there's no problem with that. I think the only "routine" trips to the nursery are a once a day weight check. We'll definitely delay, and hopefully avoid all together, the eye drops. My pediatrician said it shouldn't be a problem. My ob/gyn says I'll be able to get out in 2 days if I'm eating solid foods and don't have a fever. I'll have to go back to get my staples out, but that's worth it to me.
DH definitely doesn't get the recovery process - he's taking 2 weeks off, but he's wondering what in the world he's going to be doing with all that time with me and the baby nursing and sleeping. He's talking about cleaning out the garage, organizing the pantry and linen closet
I just laugh and tell him that if it happens, great, but definitely don't count on it. I know he'll be supportive, he's just having a difficult time conceiving of what will keep him busy.
He also thought we'd be going out and about and visiting family & showing off the baby to his co-workers
I told him there was no way we were going anywhere and there would be no pass the baby around meet & greet going on either. First time around he just doesn't know what to expect, especially being the youngest of 4. I'm the oldest of 5 and we're spread out enough I'm a little bit familiar with post-partum although they were all home births.