DH went over the top this year for Mother's Day. We have a tradition of doing a lot of planting Mother's Day weekend, and he let me go to the nursery and pick out a couple of perennials and has promised me a new planting bed and a mulch delivery
: In addition, he got me a Pandora starter bracelet, which I feel completely guilty about...he got me one charm from ea. girl (3 total) that they helped pick out...but he also got a couple of spacers. I feel a little nauseous about this, because I know he spent too much. This was supposed to be a gift after the birth of our last dd in Sept, but we kept putting it off bcs our finances have been tight. But he's been working for two months now, we've paid off two of our ccs, and he really wanted to "spoil" me. I can't help but feel like it's too much. I appreciate the gesture, I do. But the gardening extravaganza was already a lot. And then the bracelet?? Am I taking it too far, feeling like this? That's money that could have gone to the next cc...
And a friend is visiting from CA. She visits quite often and I told her, "Please, NO GIFTS this time!!" She's made comments about how she's broke in the past, and she already spent a couple hundred bucks to fly out here. She brought me a lipgloss, which I love, but feel bad she's spending money on me. And then today she gave me a pair of Lulu Lemon exercise pants! Do you know how much those run?? I didn't want to accept them, I feel uncomfortable accepting them...but what could I have done?
And then the topping on the cake...Mother's Day means brunch. We spent the weekend with my mom and my brother that lives close by. For some reason, my dh had to make the reservations. The place that my brother told him to call was $40/head and $30/head for kids.
: When dh hung up, I said, "I want to opt out of brunch. I'm not going. We can't afford it, especially after everything else..." So I called my brother and told him I was going to make mom breakfast at home, that DH had already given me a wonderful Mother's Day, and that we really couldn't afford to participate in brunch. Well, my brother made OTHER reservations at his private dinner club and insisted we join them. (believe me, we tried to get out of it)He ended up paying for 6 of us. It makes me feel BAD
: In addition, he got me a Pandora starter bracelet, which I feel completely guilty about...he got me one charm from ea. girl (3 total) that they helped pick out...but he also got a couple of spacers. I feel a little nauseous about this, because I know he spent too much. This was supposed to be a gift after the birth of our last dd in Sept, but we kept putting it off bcs our finances have been tight. But he's been working for two months now, we've paid off two of our ccs, and he really wanted to "spoil" me. I can't help but feel like it's too much. I appreciate the gesture, I do. But the gardening extravaganza was already a lot. And then the bracelet?? Am I taking it too far, feeling like this? That's money that could have gone to the next cc...And a friend is visiting from CA. She visits quite often and I told her, "Please, NO GIFTS this time!!" She's made comments about how she's broke in the past, and she already spent a couple hundred bucks to fly out here. She brought me a lipgloss, which I love, but feel bad she's spending money on me. And then today she gave me a pair of Lulu Lemon exercise pants! Do you know how much those run?? I didn't want to accept them, I feel uncomfortable accepting them...but what could I have done?
And then the topping on the cake...Mother's Day means brunch. We spent the weekend with my mom and my brother that lives close by. For some reason, my dh had to make the reservations. The place that my brother told him to call was $40/head and $30/head for kids.
: When dh hung up, I said, "I want to opt out of brunch. I'm not going. We can't afford it, especially after everything else..." So I called my brother and told him I was going to make mom breakfast at home, that DH had already given me a wonderful Mother's Day, and that we really couldn't afford to participate in brunch. Well, my brother made OTHER reservations at his private dinner club and insisted we join them. (believe me, we tried to get out of it)He ended up paying for 6 of us. It makes me feel BAD
Try and not feel guilty, that's never what anyone intends usually. 
My little guy made me a flower at school and got me a really cute card.
It was a nice thought. Then I watched movies in my room all day long and all by myself. It was the perfect mother's day.
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