Ok, if you read my other thread, you know I am new to GD. We are doing pretty well (still working on it), but I don't know what to do about these two issues.
1. Bedtime-DS1(6) and DS2(3) will not stay in bed.
DS1 is in kindergarten, and has to be up and dressed by 7:10 each morning to catch the bus for school, and DH has to leave at 5:30am for work, so he HAS to have a bedtime. No just waiting around until he's ready to go on his own.
We have co-slept off and on with them since birth, but our queen sized bed is getting smaller and smaller as they get bigger and bigger!! We also have a DD(2.5months), who sleeps in a bassinet/playpen beside our bed. I would LOVE DS1 to sleep in his own bed, but even if we get him to fall asleep in his room, he will wake up in middle of the night and come to our bed.
For DS2, we tried letting him stay up "until he got tired" (which means he is about to pass out and very whiny), but that was just a frustrating experience. He was still running around trying to play, as he is a high energy boy, and DS1 kept getting up to see what was going on and wondering why he had to go to bed, and DS2 got to stay up.
The boys do share a bedroom, so they aren't all alone at night, and we even got them the bunk beds they wanted in their room. Now, they won't even sleep in them!
I would really like to at least have DS1 sleeping in his bed and not getting up for hours (usually two hours after bedtime is usually when he will fall asleep), and have DS2 sleeping at bedtime (in our bed or his).
I do love co-sleeping, but there just isn't enough room in our bed, and a King size would fit in our room! (we live in a small house). I do have an extra toddler bed that I thought about putting in the corner of our room for them to sleep on. What do you think??
2. Yelling/back-talking-DS1 is very bad about this. I am using back talking to mean this:
After I ask/tell him to do something or tell him no he starts screaming at me. He will say Stop making me cry! or Gosh, you are so mean!! His first reaction to anything not going his way is screaming, then yelling something about how everything or everybody wants to make him mad or make him cry or hurt him. I am planning to make him a MAD pillow that he can take his aggression out on, but I'm not sure that will help with the screaming.
Ex. When DS1 got home from school he wanted a snack. I made him some popcorn, he ate it, then asked for some frozen blueberries. I gave him some and he ate that. Went outside to play. I started dinner. He comes in about 15 minutes before dinner is ready. He asks for some more blueberries. I said to him that I am making dinner and it will be ready in a few minutes, so no more snacks. He loses it! It's like he thought it was the end of the world. Screaming and crying that he is starving! I told him he needs to cool down, so he goes to his room.
WWYD???
Lydia
1. Bedtime-DS1(6) and DS2(3) will not stay in bed.
DS1 is in kindergarten, and has to be up and dressed by 7:10 each morning to catch the bus for school, and DH has to leave at 5:30am for work, so he HAS to have a bedtime. No just waiting around until he's ready to go on his own.
We have co-slept off and on with them since birth, but our queen sized bed is getting smaller and smaller as they get bigger and bigger!! We also have a DD(2.5months), who sleeps in a bassinet/playpen beside our bed. I would LOVE DS1 to sleep in his own bed, but even if we get him to fall asleep in his room, he will wake up in middle of the night and come to our bed.
For DS2, we tried letting him stay up "until he got tired" (which means he is about to pass out and very whiny), but that was just a frustrating experience. He was still running around trying to play, as he is a high energy boy, and DS1 kept getting up to see what was going on and wondering why he had to go to bed, and DS2 got to stay up.
The boys do share a bedroom, so they aren't all alone at night, and we even got them the bunk beds they wanted in their room. Now, they won't even sleep in them!
I would really like to at least have DS1 sleeping in his bed and not getting up for hours (usually two hours after bedtime is usually when he will fall asleep), and have DS2 sleeping at bedtime (in our bed or his).
I do love co-sleeping, but there just isn't enough room in our bed, and a King size would fit in our room! (we live in a small house). I do have an extra toddler bed that I thought about putting in the corner of our room for them to sleep on. What do you think??
2. Yelling/back-talking-DS1 is very bad about this. I am using back talking to mean this:
After I ask/tell him to do something or tell him no he starts screaming at me. He will say Stop making me cry! or Gosh, you are so mean!! His first reaction to anything not going his way is screaming, then yelling something about how everything or everybody wants to make him mad or make him cry or hurt him. I am planning to make him a MAD pillow that he can take his aggression out on, but I'm not sure that will help with the screaming.
Ex. When DS1 got home from school he wanted a snack. I made him some popcorn, he ate it, then asked for some frozen blueberries. I gave him some and he ate that. Went outside to play. I started dinner. He comes in about 15 minutes before dinner is ready. He asks for some more blueberries. I said to him that I am making dinner and it will be ready in a few minutes, so no more snacks. He loses it! It's like he thought it was the end of the world. Screaming and crying that he is starving! I told him he needs to cool down, so he goes to his room.
WWYD???
Lydia
