Our homevisit is this coming week. after all of the worry I had over planning out this birth, I am amazingly zen now- so my goal is just to stay this way
I think that hypnobirthing has had a LOT to do with it.
We found the beautifulhomebirth book, "Welcome with Love," on amazon. My daughter( almost 3) loves it, my son(almost 6) doesn't care much. We have also watched several birth videos together, including " I watched my brother being born" , and some that I pre-viewed on youtube before showing them. My daughter actually enjoyed the dvd, it was just the right length for he and didn't make birth seem scary. my son loved the part where teh older kids got to examine the placenta, and he already got the go-ahead from ourmidwife to do the same
ONe of my favorite videos on yotube is a water/hypnobirthing called "Fabi's birth" or something to that affect. it is not very educational, but it i very short and presents a very sweet gentle portrait of birth.
We have also spent time talking about when they wreborn, talking about the noises mommy might make and teh things they might do to help me when the baby is being born.
The biggest thing to me is giving them both, especially my daughter ( my son,despite hisapathy for the books and videos, is ttally in love with this babyalready- he is the one that asked us to have another one)- a sense of possession of the baby- as in it is her baby just as muc as it is mama and daddy's. The plan is that she is going to help daddy cut the cord when baby gets here- and maybe the symbolism speaks to me more than it will to her, even subconciously, but coming from a familywith so muc sibling strife, the idea is just beautiful to me.