My twin babies are almost 19yo! I had a dd11, ds was 7 and dd 2 1/4. It was mayhem, I won't lie, but no one went without.
THe most importaant thig for now is REST. It's hard for most to hold twins to term, and just resting, napping, lying down, will help immensely. I was on bedrest for 7 months, for one reason or another. (never one of those healthy pregnant women
) And they were born at 40 weeks, 7lbs 1 oz and 6 lbs 4 oz. Not too shoddy.
What worked: taking my time getting used to the idea. Accepting help. Begging for help. (WHile on bedrest, mostly, but also when they were tiny)
We put our queen size mattress and box spring on the floor and put a full size mattress on the floor, up against it. THis was our family bed. Dd 2years slept with us also, so we used a bassinet for a bit to keep them safe, or I slept on teh full with the babies, etc. It was great to be able to have a clean place to retreat to when I'd find my spot soggy, great to be able to roll over to nurse.
Other things I found invaluable: A thing that hung from the beam in our ceiling that they sat in and bounced. It kept one kid off the kitchen floor. I wish I'd had two.
A bassinet on each floor. THey snuggled in one at a time.
Two highchairs, though not a big fan before. Ones with big plastic trays. They ate off of them without dishes. Dishes just went on the floor, anyway.
You sound so much like me at that stage! I was terrified of a csec! You've had easy birthsbefore, there's no reason to think these will be any different! Trust yourself to know if you need more help.
Carrying around the little ones all the time, hmm. I'd start planning an earlier maternity leave than you might have. You'll probably need more rest and less activity. I realize that not everyone does, but most I've met have.
We loive very rurally too. My schedule was the same as yours, but I nursed two at a time, not one. And we usually ate out, for even the simplest errands. The car was always full of snacks for the older kids.
By the time they were 2 we were camping, on an island with no running water. No problem.
They are the closest individuals I've ever seen. They adore each other, spend every minute togehter. THey have separate friends and common friends, jobs, interests, but they love each other, more than anyone. Even their mama, even as babies.
My belly? Eh, it never looked quite the same. My dh tells me he loves it, it's where his babies grew.
I'd like a smooth 19 yo belly again, but I'd rather the twins. Dressed i'm slim and fine, naked, I have a poochy thing. Honestly, I could probably diet if I tried a bit harder. I think the tough part was learning to use my abs again. After the babies come, think about tightening thoswe abs up while walking,e tc.
The kid that got lost in teh shuffle was the 2 yo. Not by family, but strangers invariably would stop and coo at the twins (oh what a pain that was), compliment #1 on being a good big sis, say to ds, oh, you're the only boy! and move on. I finally used to say and this is....
Really, go lie down and don't think about it. I cried for days wen they said it might be twins. Told teh MW that was the 'T' word, and not to say the 'T' word again until I told them I was ready. I needed to adjust.
You sound like you've had tons of experience with bunches of kids. That'll be invaluable and you'll do fine. Congratualtions! THis is really fun.