don't want to make the decision

[mommabear207]

so dh and i are fully vac. ds1 is 2 and is up to date ds2 is now just 3 months and has had his first two vac. he was suppose to go in for his 2 month check up but we had to post pone due to no way to get there now i don't want to reschedule cause i know he'll be due for his next vacs. a little while ago i read vaccinations a thoughtful parents guide. now i'm even more nervous about a possible adverse reaction. i tried to talk about it with dh and get him to read it but hes busy and doesn't think they're that dangerous. ie he and i and everyone we know is vaxed and fine. it doesn't help either that before i got a chance to bring it up my mil found the book and freaked. she went to fil and told him to talk to dh and make sure we were vaxing.... dh of course was like never heard of the book of course we're vaxing ds1 is up to date.....
now i'm not sure what to do. i guess the things i'm most concerned about is additives to vaxs ie mercury, potential link to autism & sids (of course he'll prob say theres no proof of that) his biggest worry i think is that if they did get the diseases they are more likely to have an adverse side affect & thats why they started making vaxs in the first place.
i'm not sure what to do & i can't put it off forever. i'm terrible at arguing my side and just saying he got them is not an option. if i went in and delayed it i would have to tell dh.
so what should i do?

[alegna]

Research each vaccine and disease and weigh the risks and benefits.

When I did that I found no vaccines were worth the risk for us.

-Angela

[GoBecGo]

Before i begin i will state that i fully vax DD and she is up to date.

BUT. Don't do it. I did it AFTER my research, when i was sure. The default is an unvaxed child - once the needle is in that's it, you can't go back. If you have a vacciation late...oh well, you can always get these things done later.

I am not saying you should just let this lie - make it a matter of urgency that your DH educates himself and continue with your own research, find out what you DO want to do. But until you KNOW that going on vaxing is the right thing for your kids and your family, don't do it. Just my view.

[Mrsboyko]

Originally Posted by GoBecGo

BUT. Don't do it. I did it AFTER my research, when i was sure. The default is an unvaxed child - once the needle is in that's it, you can't go back. If you have a vacciation late...oh well, you can always get these things done later.

I am not saying you should just let this lie - make it a matter of urgency that your DH educates himself and continue with your own research, find out what you DO want to do. But until you KNOW that going on vaxing is the right thing for your kids and your family, don't do it. Just my view.

This exactly. You can always do them late but you can't take it back. Don't do anything until you are sure of your decision. Regrets are the worst, especially in this situation.

DD (2.5 y/o) was completely "on schedule" till after her 6 months shots when she did react. Vomiting for 3 days and sleeping 12+ hours at a time is NOT a normal thing, and yet that is what our doc tried to tell me. From then on I had a "one shot, only one vaccine at a time" rule. No more combos. That lasted till I found MDC and began to actually research. She hasn't been poked since she was 19 months old. That was a single meseals vacc since there was a bunch of cases in the area and her Day Care would ban her for 2 weeks if anyone at the school got it. Neither DH nor i could miss that much work, so we did get her that one.

[Ruthla]

If you don't want to make the decision, then don't make the decision yet. Delay vaccines until you're comfortable enough with your research to make an informed decision one way or the other.

And you need to find a tactful way to get your inlaws to butt out of your children's medical decisions. I wouldn't discuss the vaccine issue with them anymore, or even tell them what you've decided. You can just give a vague "yeah, they've been vaccinated" without going into detail about whether or not they've gotten any MORE vaccines since you picked up the book!

[ChristSavesAll]

Originally Posted by alegna

Research each vaccine and disease and weigh the risks and benefits.

When I did that I found no vaccines were worth the risk for us.

-Angela

: I checked out each disease on webmd and found that all of them were illnesses that my kids would recover from and any serious cases were actually quite rare, on top of that they'd have to catch it first.

Then there's the vaccines, the "protection" rate, is quite ridiculous... there is little to no protection from the supposed diseases and in some cases actually A causes you to catch it, or B weakens your immune system so bad it open you up to other illnesses. and the worst part is that the diseases are preventable and can be treated.. but how do you treat a child that dies from an adverse reaction? Or how about one that suffers from seizures the rest of their life? Or a child that becomes a paraplegic?

But that's just my :.

And.. you wanna read stories you can check out thinktwice.org and then there's Ian's Voice, that one is tough to read through because it has pictures, but it reminds me exactly why we don't vaccinate.

[Marnica]

Originally Posted by mommabear207

so dh and i are fully vac. ds1 is 2 and is up to date ds2 is now just 3 months and has had his first two vac. he was suppose to go in for his 2 month check up but we had to post pone due to no way to get there now i don't want to reschedule cause i know he'll be due for his next vacs. a little while ago i read vaccinations a thoughtful parents guide. now i'm even more nervous about a possible adverse reaction. i tried to talk about it with dh and get him to read it but hes busy and doesn't think they're that dangerous. ie he and i and everyone we know is vaxed and fine. it doesn't help either that before i got a chance to bring it up my mil found the book and freaked. she went to fil and told him to talk to dh and make sure we were vaxing.... dh of course was like never heard of the book of course we're vaxing ds1 is up to date.....
now i'm not sure what to do. i guess the things i'm most concerned about is additives to vaxs ie mercury, potential link to autism & sids (of course he'll prob say theres no proof of that) his biggest worry i think is that if they did get the diseases they are more likely to have an adverse side affect & thats why they started making vaxs in the first place. i'm not sure what to do & i can't put it off forever. i'm terrible at arguing my side and just saying he got them is not an option. if i went in and delayed it i would have to tell dh.
so what should i do?

The bolded are words from someone (your husband) who has not spent anytime researching this issue! I agree with PP's. Do your research and hold off until you can make an informed choice. Let your DH know that he has to look at whatever research you find and give him to read...if he doesn't then he has no say in the descision. Does he really think that nothing bad ever happens as a result of vaccines?? Make him look at this website. Particularly the memorial to vaccine victims section on the righ hand side http://www.nvic.org/default.aspx. This is just 1 website of many that have sections like this. As for why vaccines were made in the first place....the answer is MONEY

[katiesk]

If you are not comfortable making the decision right now without more information, then don't! It is always a good idea to make educated decisions. There really is no rush to get the kiddo vaccinated. Many people wait until their babies are at least two before introducing any vaccines.

For us, I know that my dp thinks we should probably vaccinate dd. He has not done much thinking/reading/research around the issue however, so we have agreed to wait until she is two - and then consider which vaccines he thinks are worthwhile.

There is alot of accessible information about vaccines. I believe that not only are they potentially damaging, they are largely unnecessary.

Good luck!

[k9sarchik]

Yup, definitely research. AND if you end up choosing to vax it never ever hurts to wait until they are a little older.

When vaccines first came out they never gave them to babies. Always older kids.

I knew I was not going to vax my DS, but after reading about all the diseases, vaccines, ingredients, side-effects, disease stats, etc. I am even more firm on my decision that vaxing is not an option for my family.